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Would you complain or is it not worth it?

41 replies

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 17:04

The night before last, we found out my son (8) had worms.
Yesterday, on my way to do a 12 hour shift I popped to my local pharmacy which is inside a supermarket to get him some medicine.
There was quite a queue, maybe 8 people, but because I was running late (roadworks outside the shop) I didn’t have time to go anywhere else, so I waited.
When it was my turn, I said “Can I please have some Ovex?” The woman said “What’s it for?”
I said “It’s fine, I know what it’s for. Can I have it please?”
She said “Not until you tell me what you want it for.”
I said “My son has worms.”
She said “Speak up, I can’t hear you.”
So I said it again, louder, in front of several customers.
Then it turned out the prices were all wrong, so I couldn’t afford the family pack (£12, only had a tenner in my account).
I said “Can I have the single dose, please?”
She said “No, you have to treat the whole family.”
I said “I can’t afford to treat the whole family, do you have a generic version.”
Her response “We’re not Boots. If you want the generic version, you should go to a chemist. This is a pharmacy, dear.”
So I said I would take the single dose.
She said “Well, technically I’m not allowed to sell you it because you have disclosed that you don’t live alone, but it’s up to you.” (Disclosed! Like she's the bloody FBI or something).
I said “Well, it’s all I can afford, so I’ll take it please.”
She said “Well, on your head be it.”
Then she rang it through and it was nearly a pound more than it was marked at so I had to transfer more money. I said “Excuse me one second.” She said “Well, do you want this or not?” I said I did and she said “Well, I think you’ll be back soon enough but I can’t make you buy the multipack.”

I left feeling utterly humiliated but I didn’t have time to go elsewhere and my son had asked me not to tell my dad (his grandad) who picked him up. I also didn’t have time to tell the manager and by the time I finished work they were closed.

I usually don’t complain about poor service because you never know another person’s story but it was over 24 hours ago and I’m still annoyed. Is it worth complaining? Does anyone even acknowledge complaints these days?

Why was she so insistent that I told her what it was for? Are people out there mainlining Ovex at nearly £6 a pop or what?

OP posts:
Palestar · 07/06/2025 17:31

She's doing her job. If you want to access medicine from a pharmacist, you explain the problem so they know they're giving you the right thing (for your own welfare) and you take their advice as it's in your interest.

If you do disclose information (she's not wrong to use the word in its exact correct context, and we don't have an FBI), they advise based on it. It's relevant. Not her fault you couldn't afford to treat everyone at once, anymore than if you couldn't afford toothpaste and toilet paper. It's still the sensible thing to suggest you do.

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:01

@Palestar Fair enough, she was doing her job, but surely her job is also to be customer friendly?

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FlightCommanderPRJohnson · 07/06/2025 18:07

I imagine she is protecting herself from a scenario where you later visit the doctor because the worms haven't cleared up, and the doctor probes into what treatment you've tried, and says that the whole family should have been treated - you then complain that the pharmacist dispensed inappropriately.

It's a thankless job and very rules driven so personally I don't think you should complain. Hope your DS's worms clear up soon!

BlueMum16 · 07/06/2025 18:07

I disagree. You should be able to buy a medicine by name without a discussion. Especially after reassuring them you know what it is for.

I'm sure I've bought exact product by name without disclosing anything more.

It's not a controlled drug, one packets isn't going to be overdose material.

I would complain.

BlueSlate · 07/06/2025 18:09

She isn't there to be 'friendly' though. And she wasn't being customer 'unfriendly'. You just didn't like what she said.

She's there to ensure the correct dispensing of medication and that the right advice is given.

My children have never had worms but I know that you need to treat the whole family.

When I go to the pharmacy, I answer the questions they ask because I understand they're doing their job. I don't refuse and tell them I know what it's for or argue with them. Presumably, you have processes and procedures in your job that you have to follow?

PrincessofWells · 07/06/2025 18:10

There's a privacy issue . . . it shouldn't happen like this, but it does.

Palestar · 07/06/2025 18:11

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:01

@Palestar Fair enough, she was doing her job, but surely her job is also to be customer friendly?

Yeah, maybe. But secondary to actually dispensing over the counter medicine to the right people for the right reasons based on her knowledge and qualifications.

I actually think you messed up on the mutual friendliness straight away by telling her you knew what it was for and insisting that you should just be given it. She wanted to know, in a professional capacity, what it was intended for before she gave it to you. You were petulant because you didn't like being questioned. And probably because you were already running late, the traffic was bad, this illness you needed to treat was inconvenient to you, and you feel hard done by (and like it was necessary context) having to work a 12 hour shift.

Objectively, it would only be problematic had she not asked.

CaptainFuture · 07/06/2025 18:15

Absolutely as above. People today honestly have this hierarchical attitude towards anyone who works with the public of 'you are here to SERVE me, therefore do not question me, and do as I demand!!'

FlightCommanderPRJohnson · 07/06/2025 18:16

BlueMum16 · 07/06/2025 18:07

I disagree. You should be able to buy a medicine by name without a discussion. Especially after reassuring them you know what it is for.

I'm sure I've bought exact product by name without disclosing anything more.

It's not a controlled drug, one packets isn't going to be overdose material.

I would complain.

But how does the pharmacist know that your knowledge is correct? I'm thinking of all the misinformation flying round on the internet and bonkers people on TikTok posting about miracle cures - you can imagine some pea-brained 'influencer' saying 'take Ovex to lose weight' or 'take Ovex to cure your migraines' - the pharmacist needs to make sure the customer genuinely knows what they are talking about.

rainbowunicorn · 07/06/2025 18:18

To be honest OP you come across as difficult. She was doing her job. She is also correct in that there is little point in treating one member of a household and not everyone .

babystarsandmoon · 07/06/2025 18:19

You could have asked to speak in a consultation room I guess.

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:21

CaptainFuture · 07/06/2025 18:15

Absolutely as above. People today honestly have this hierarchical attitude towards anyone who works with the public of 'you are here to SERVE me, therefore do not question me, and do as I demand!!'

Not in the slightest! I used to work in retail, in Boots, in fact, and if someone asked for something sensitive, and we needed more information m we would ask to speak to them discreetly.

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 07/06/2025 18:22

Okay, I may be missing the point, but a chemist (store, not person) and a pharmacy aren’t the same thing? Is this something everyone knows?! As I had no idea!

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:23

rainbowunicorn · 07/06/2025 18:18

To be honest OP you come across as difficult. She was doing her job. She is also correct in that there is little point in treating one member of a household and not everyone .

Maybe, but she was rude from the start and that got my back up. Surely it wouldn’t have hurt for her to be discreet, and less judgemental about my finances?

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SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:25

ForZanyAquaViewer · 07/06/2025 18:22

Okay, I may be missing the point, but a chemist (store, not person) and a pharmacy aren’t the same thing? Is this something everyone knows?! As I had no idea!

Apparently not. I’ve since found out that a chemists is the whole shop, a pharmacy is just the bit that dispenses medicine and sells OTC stuff.

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SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:29

Palestar · 07/06/2025 18:11

Yeah, maybe. But secondary to actually dispensing over the counter medicine to the right people for the right reasons based on her knowledge and qualifications.

I actually think you messed up on the mutual friendliness straight away by telling her you knew what it was for and insisting that you should just be given it. She wanted to know, in a professional capacity, what it was intended for before she gave it to you. You were petulant because you didn't like being questioned. And probably because you were already running late, the traffic was bad, this illness you needed to treat was inconvenient to you, and you feel hard done by (and like it was necessary context) having to work a 12 hour shift.

Objectively, it would only be problematic had she not asked.

The reason I mentioned my shift was to bat off all the holier than thou MNers who would use it as an excuse to comment on my timekeeping.
My “petulance” came from my asking for a product that only has one use, which is a sensitive one, and her insistence on making me say it loudly, rather than taking a few seconds to ask me discreetly.

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CaptainFuture · 07/06/2025 18:29

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:21

Not in the slightest! I used to work in retail, in Boots, in fact, and if someone asked for something sensitive, and we needed more information m we would ask to speak to them discreetly.

So YOU would decide if something was embarrassing for a customer, and then take them to a private room?.
Kids are grim and grubby at times, and worms can be part of that.
I'd be more annoyed if you decided my child's health issue was a cause of embarrassment and needed to be discussed in secret!

amberisola · 07/06/2025 18:31

I used to work in a chemist's as a sales assistant. We did have to ask certain questions and/or ask the pharmacist to come over and talk to the customer. But there's a way to speak to people, especially about sensitive issues. I would never have dreamed of talking to a customer like that.

InterestedDad37 · 07/06/2025 18:31

Yep, I had no idea that there was a difference between a chemist's and a pharmacy. I don't think I'm alone in that either 👍

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 07/06/2025 18:32

She didn't need to be such a cunt when the OP had clearly stated she couldn't afford the job lot for the whole family though did she?

feelingbleh · 07/06/2025 18:33

You do sound like your where being awkward first your refusing to give basic information, then your trying to tell her how to do her job and that you know better, then you can't even afford what your trying to buy so your pissing about transferring money from one account to another even though you've said how busy it was in there.

JMSA · 07/06/2025 18:34

She sounds like a cow. YANBU.

MyMindIsSoLoud · 07/06/2025 18:35

I think your embarrassment of what you were buying, plus not having enough money, may be causing you to be disproportionately annoyed over the interaction.
She was just doing her job.

TiswasPhantomFlanFlinger · 07/06/2025 18:36

Pharmacists have clear rules they must follow.
When my DD was a pharmacy student on a placement a customer asked for paracetamol for her cat. DD told the customer the paracetamol was not licensed for cats so she could not sell it to her. The customer complained to the pharmacist and he confirmed that DD was correct and wouldn’t sell it.
The customer could have bought it if she hadn’t disclosed it was for her cat.
That is why you are often asked who an other the counter medication is for, when at the pharmacy counter.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 07/06/2025 18:38

SuzyQ76 · 07/06/2025 18:25

Apparently not. I’ve since found out that a chemists is the whole shop, a pharmacy is just the bit that dispenses medicine and sells OTC stuff.

I have learnt something today. Thank you.