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Stretch the truth to avoid going out to dinner

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Ruggerlass · 07/06/2025 15:58

I’m supposed to be meeting friends in a couple of days for dinner. I’ve found out the restaurant that is booked has a hygiene rating of 1. I really don’t want to go. My predicament is should I be honest and say why I don’t want to go and risk upsetting friend who’s booked it or stretch the truth to keep the peace. I should say friend is not particularly fussy where she eats.

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TheChosenTwo · 09/06/2025 13:34

MoistVonL · 09/06/2025 08:31

@TheChosenTwo - I suspect there is a strong correlation between those of us who have worked in catering/hospitality and the people who check food hygiene ratings!

Going through the inspection process and knowing the sort of things that give you a rating as low as a 1 or 2 certainly makes a strong impression.

Getting a 1 doesn’t mean everyone who eats there will be ill, obviously. It just increases the odds. A lot.

Oh I totally agree with you, not on my radar and that’s not going to change now!!

But yes, with a group size as large as ours and ordering the type of food we did, discovering the food hygiene rating was 1 we had expected some repercussions and there were none! We actually went back there later on that week 😂

I’ve seen schools fail their ofsted reports on careless approaches to paperwork filing, not a reflection on the quality or content of teaching so I suppose I tend to take all these ‘very important and serious reports’ somewhat casually.

Ruggerlass · 09/06/2025 19:39

Just an update. Seems my honesty has backfired. I received a message from friend today saying she’s been thinking about it and she’s dumfounded as that’s not something she’d dream of doing anytime and especially if a friend had organised it. I explained it’s not personal but something I just routinely do. Anyway I feel I may now be struck off the Christmas card list 😀

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LaughingCat · 09/06/2025 20:29

Ruggerlass · 09/06/2025 19:39

Just an update. Seems my honesty has backfired. I received a message from friend today saying she’s been thinking about it and she’s dumfounded as that’s not something she’d dream of doing anytime and especially if a friend had organised it. I explained it’s not personal but something I just routinely do. Anyway I feel I may now be struck off the Christmas card list 😀

Seems perfectly normal to me - if I looked up a restaurant a friend had booked to see the food they do and saw some negative reviews about the food quality, I’d then want to see what a recent inspection said. Your friend should be thanking you!

BuckChuckets · 09/06/2025 20:35

Ruggerlass · 09/06/2025 19:39

Just an update. Seems my honesty has backfired. I received a message from friend today saying she’s been thinking about it and she’s dumfounded as that’s not something she’d dream of doing anytime and especially if a friend had organised it. I explained it’s not personal but something I just routinely do. Anyway I feel I may now be struck off the Christmas card list 😀

If I were your friend I'd be thanking you for warning us all!

daisychain01 · 09/06/2025 20:36

how immature. She's doing you a favour by showing you who she is.

Id be tempted to send her a response such as "just to be clear, my decision has no bearing on the fact that you organised it. It is on the basis that I prioritise my health. It's ridiculous that you've taken offence but that's your decision"

ChocolateGanache · 09/06/2025 20:46

Where are these ratings from re: hygiene op?

Ruggerlass · 09/06/2025 20:59

daisychain01 · 09/06/2025 20:36

how immature. She's doing you a favour by showing you who she is.

Id be tempted to send her a response such as "just to be clear, my decision has no bearing on the fact that you organised it. It is on the basis that I prioritise my health. It's ridiculous that you've taken offence but that's your decision"

I replied saying my intention was not to
upset her and I was sorry if I had. I said it wasn’t personal but just something I routinely do if it’s somewhere I’ve not been before or for a while

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Ruggerlass · 09/06/2025 21:03

ChocolateGanache · 09/06/2025 20:46

Where are these ratings from re: hygiene op?

from the government government’s food hygiene rating website

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summerscomingsoon · 09/06/2025 21:08

Just tell them what you've said here.

Can't be bothered with friends who won't just ge honest. We are adult women not teenagers.

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