Stretch the truth to avoid going out to dinner

[Ruggerlass]

I’m supposed to be meeting friends in a couple of days for dinner. I’ve found out the restaurant that is booked has a hygiene rating of 1. I really don’t want to go. My predicament is should I be honest and say why I don’t want to go and risk upsetting friend who’s booked it or stretch the truth to keep the peace. I should say friend is not particularly fussy where she eats.

Oh I totally agree with you, not on my radar and that’s not going to change now!!

But yes, with a group size as large as ours and ordering the type of food we did, discovering the food hygiene rating was 1 we had expected some repercussions and there were none! We actually went back there later on that week 😂

I’ve seen schools fail their ofsted reports on careless approaches to paperwork filing, not a reflection on the quality or content of teaching so I suppose I tend to take all these ‘very important and serious reports’ somewhat casually.

Just an update. Seems my honesty has backfired. I received a message from friend today saying she’s been thinking about it and she’s dumfounded as that’s not something she’d dream of doing anytime and especially if a friend had organised it. I explained it’s not personal but something I just routinely do. Anyway I feel I may now be struck off the Christmas card list 😀

Seems perfectly normal to me - if I looked up a restaurant a friend had booked to see the food they do and saw some negative reviews about the food quality, I’d then want to see what a recent inspection said. Your friend should be thanking you!

If I were your friend I'd be thanking you for warning us all!

how immature. She's doing you a favour by showing you who she is.

Id be tempted to send her a response such as "just to be clear, my decision has no bearing on the fact that you organised it. It is on the basis that I prioritise my health. It's ridiculous that you've taken offence but that's your decision"

Where are these ratings from re: hygiene op?

I replied saying my intention was not to
upset her and I was sorry if I had. I said it wasn’t personal but just something I routinely do if it’s somewhere I’ve not been before or for a while

from the government government’s food hygiene rating website

Just tell them what you've said here.

Can't be bothered with friends who won't just ge honest. We are adult women not teenagers.