Friend and I went for dinner a few weeks ago. Discussed a potential getaway for summer. I’ve noticed she’s become very unreliable lately. Like just flakey about certain things. She said “I’m looking for holidays to Germany” the one evening. I said okay nice just being the deals with you to dinner assuming that it would be open to some discussion or other options.
we get to dinner the other evening to discuss and she said “okay so I Ned to talk to my husband about it but Germany it is” so I said “oh okay I though we could discuss considering we’re both paying” said in a jokey tone she agreed we could explore other places but I was a bit miffed she assumed I’d just go to Germany like it wasn’t a joint trip. As it I’d was hers and I’m just tagging along. Anyway, I got a message yesterday saying “will let you know about the meet up on Monday as hubby has had a busy week and we need to discuss” so I said nothing became I knew it would be her flaking at this point probably. So I just got a message this morning saying she’s spoken to hubby he’s not sure because of the responsibilities at home and obviously she feels bad letting me down blah blah but we can think about it another time loads of love”. (She made reference to not being entirely content with him as she’s directed by his moods) anyway i had to ignore it because honestly i can’t be bothered with the back and fourth. I’m also annoyed because she’s flaked last min on some dinners and now I’m just questioning the whole friendship. I asked my other friends if maybe I upset her by suggesting we should explore other places because I’m paying too. But idk I’m just torn with this friendship. Help? Aibu