To feel the teachers are very cold

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(Nothing against teachers at all. Both my sisters are teachers).

I just feel my kids school the teachers are very cold. There seems to be no warmth when engaging with them. The head and deputy head are lovely and very smiley but the teaching staff themselves seem really annoyed all the time. I introduced myself to DS’s teacher for next year and she just looked at me like “what do you want from me” type of look. Anyone else feel like this?

@Pyramyththey've got a TA.

My little one is in the reception class of a specialist school. He is profoundly disabled and registered blind, his teacher and the TA's in his class are a shining light in our lives and bring so much joy and happiness into his life. They challenge him to be his best and encourage him every day even when he's going through difficult times. Miserable teachers is not my experience at all, especially not in primary schools.

Just throwing out there that maybe when somebody wants a meeting and brings along somebody else for 'moral support', it tends to be a bollocking/complaint where they want a teacher to feel outnumbered or intimidated?

I was about to say the same thing - in my experience a meeting with moral support is usually because a parent is t happy about something. There is ALWAYS a parent unhappy about something. I always had time to help children regulate their emotions, grown adults, not so much! I left teaching recently after 18 years, not because of the children, but the parents. If I’m honest pain in the arse parents elicited a private sigh and eye roll from me too - might this be an issue with you and not the teacher? Maybe have a little reflect about it.

I think this can be the case. I know of a male head who's not the easiest with parents and school helpers but the children adore him and think highly of him. Wait and see?

Some parents can be rude or demanding, and some expect to have a five minute chat with the teacher every morning, right when the teacher is just trying to get the students settled and into the classroom.

I’ve worked with teachers who weren’t necessarily liked by all parents, but who were brilliant with the kids. I’ve also come across parents that I would actively avoid unless necessary.

“Very cold” to you perhaps OP because of the way you behave to them. They are human after all.

They dealt with a serious issue regarding your daughter very effectively it would seem. However rather than celebrate that, you choose to whinge about they’re “coldness”.

That is quite telling

I haven't had a chat with either of DCs teachers, other than speaking about them at parents' evening or once when helping on a trip. I only speak to them at pick up if I need to share information. I don't think they are cold, just busy doing their job.

If every parent wants a 2-3 minute chat that is an hour to an hour and a half extra on the week. On top of everything else the teacher is expected to do.

And a chatty parent could easily talk for longer.

Maybe the teacher has learnt to kept it professional to the parents to encourage quicker handovers.

Maybe they had paperwork or planning to get back to.

Maybe they had to run off to run a club.

Maybe they had an exhausting day and were mentally planning this tea.

Are the students happy? Are concerns dealt with timely? Are you getting appropriate communication about progress. If yes, job done.

As long as my child was happy and thriving, their teachers could give me the middle finger as I approached them, and I would still think the sun shone out of their ass

Of course the head and deputy are all smiles, you are a customer OP. I have been a pupil and a parent at private school, I know the form.

OP, please don't be THAT parent.
You raised an issue, brought your sister to the meeting for moral support/back up, issue was resolved.
A busy teacher in the school playground, and you're upset at her perceived coldness because she didn't have time to talk to you about your child joining her class in the next school year.