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Friend invited her boyfriend to OUR plans / has no time for me now

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gtos · 06/06/2025 21:08

My best friend has recently got a boyfriend and I never see her anymore (even though we live together). We used to do everything together and be stuck at the hip. I know it’s life and it cannot be like this all the time but she has changed. Whenever we do see each other she only speaks about him and also doesn’t seem interested in my life.

Before she met him we had booked a 4 day camping festival for next month. We know some other people going but we said how we would share a tent together and be together and then see our other friends when we can.

She tells me the other day that her boyfriend has now got a ticket and how I feel about it. She told me she encouraged him to get a ticket. I felt like I can’t be the one to determine if he comes or not but I did say I thought this was a friends thing and I’m worried I’ll end up on my own.

She has said that she won’t leave me and that she doesn’t even want to meet up with him that much but now I feel uneasy. We have had this planned for ages and i don’t do anything with her anymore just us. AIBU?

OP posts:
Pinches · 06/06/2025 21:10

I'd be asking if he will be sharing the tent with her, and if so, where does she expect you to sleep.

alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 21:15

You’ll 100% end up the third wheel… possibly also being ‘set up’ with a mate of his.

gtos · 06/06/2025 21:17

So he is camping with a friend - we are still camping together apparently.

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alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 21:49

“ALL together” more like. There’s no way she will share a tent with you and you’ll end up with his mate in a 2man tent.

CaptainFuture · 06/06/2025 21:51

alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 21:15

You’ll 100% end up the third wheel… possibly also being ‘set up’ with a mate of his.

Yep... they'll 'accidentally' fall asleep in one tent, leaving you to have to share with his mate....

Walkerzoo · 06/06/2025 21:53

Definitely a set up. And agree with the posts. You will be sharing a tent with the other person

gtos · 06/06/2025 21:57

His friend has a wife and kids so this will not happen… he has to camp in another field due to the type of ticket he has but I can her just going back to his tent instead of ours.

i almost don’t want to even go anymore.

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alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 22:05

Can you go but be fully prepared to spend the weekend with the other friends there you know? Seems a shame for you to miss out.

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 06/06/2025 22:08

Have you hung out with the bf much? I’ve usually got on with friends bfs and it can be a fun group when bfs are added.

Ace56 · 06/06/2025 22:26

gtos · 06/06/2025 21:57

His friend has a wife and kids so this will not happen… he has to camp in another field due to the type of ticket he has but I can her just going back to his tent instead of ours.

i almost don’t want to even go anymore.

Edited

So is the plan for the bf to stay alone in his own tent, in the same field as the friend with the wife and kids? If so, your friend will definitely just stay in the bf’s tent with him, and you’ll be alone in your tent. Which won’t really be too bad if you’re near your other friends?

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