Splitting expenses when dating

[itsmarlborough]

So I earn 100k but raise three kids solely . He earns 300k+ and is single. What’s a fair split when dating? Early days ?

If it's early days then your respective finances don't come into it. If you form a relationship and start sharing living expenses then you can agree a fair split.

Fair split for what?
meals out? Holidays?
raising your kids?

How do you know what he makes so early?

Anyway, he should be paying and taking you places, with you paying every so often 🥰

Thank you! I agree. I was thinking that in about six months if we were to move on a little , I would accept being paid for for a dinner , weekend away eyc. I must have issues around money as I feel
pretty insistent about sharing 50/50 right now . My friends think im
nuts not to even accept a dinner without insistence on reciprocation.

He is a consultant Dr with a private practice also so it’s public knowledge .

Oh gosh no re kids!! He will never be involved with them. I dont believe in that .

just days/ nights out/ weekends away etc

Take it in turns to pay. That way you can choose places that fit your budget, he his.

Otherwise he’ll never be able to go to more expensive places he would like to try, because you can’t afford it.

Great advice thanks! I like to save and do lots of cheap and cheerful weekends and holidays but am still very settled in my comfort zone ie love the peace and harmony of my home with my kids so it’s difficult for me to let anyone in tbh.

Two very separate and different friends stayed with me recently and both noted the lack of male energy in the house and loved it . I want to keep that sense in my home so I’m a bit scared too .