Not wanting to move in with my bf in his moms home when she passes

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For not wanting to move in with my bf in his moms home when she passes? My bf been talking about it that we will save lots of money by doing so if she ends up passing one day, but i really don’t want to.. my mil smokes inside the home where her home litteraly smells smoke as soon as u enter and REALLY BAD.. and she also has a small dog that have scraped up the parquet and doors and near window.. and redecorate the whole house will litteraly be so expensive.. and i don’t even like her house that much that i would want to live there tbh, i know this sounds a bit harsh but i also want us to own our own home to make new memories if we have kids togheter.

Does he live with his mummy still, or is he a grown up? Does he work, or is he living off mummy? Does he like his mom? Is he a bit love/hate with her - still dependent but resents it a bit so looking to her dying as a way out for him?
He doesn't sound much of a catch OP.....are we missing something here?
I wouldn't really think about this if I've never seen ro experience my bf as living separate to, and completely independently of, his parents. And I'd want to know he has thoughts about how he'd do this that aren't dependent on his parents death.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but my Grandad lived to almost 90 as a very heavy smoker. As did his brother. Not sure why you're speculating she's going to die soon just because she smokes.

Agree, IME the heavy smokers I knew/know are bizarrely generally healthier than those who aren't.

E.g. my aunt smoked 40 a day and lived to 94 and never went to hospital in her life, her cause of death was head injury caused by tripping up over her dressing gown we think. Go figure.

Had her cigs in her pocket too and her lighter so she was probably about to to spark one up, bless her, didnt even get to enjoy one last fag 😬

Is the poor woman even ill??

She may well have another 20 years so this speculation is really pointless. How old are you OP?

"doesn't think she has long left"
Unless she's seriously ill or regularly dances on the motorway or railtrack then she could live for a very long time.

Are you both very young?

Snort. His mother may live to be 102 and the house sold to cover care home fees, unless your Prince plans to be her sole carer himself. Or she may leave it to a dog charity.

More importantly, he sounds ghastly.

Sounds like he's counting the days till he gets a free house, that's horrible and I, personally, couldn't see past it. Also my mil is 80, smoking since she was 13 and still going strong. His grabby hands may have a long wait.

You're assuming he will be left the house, it may be sold to cover care costs, who knows, she's not died yet. If you do plan to stay together and buy a new place is he happy to sell the house

Ah well, there's a fair chance the house will go to pay for care in her later years...

But if not, the smoke smell can be got out. And if you're rent / mortgage free, doesn't that mean you can afford renovations to sort the problems and make it your own?