Mrs

[Elena300]

Hello,

I will be 40 soon and I m thinking of second child but can't make my decision. I m closer to stay with only one but still haven't decided yet. Any thoughts on how to decide?

Sorry, unsure how you want us to vote, can you clarify please?

If there was ever a post that didn’t belong in AIBU and had no useful information, this would be it.

Flip a coin

1

Go with your gut. Age is just a number. If you feel a 2nd baby would add meaning to your life then go ahead.

Yes

If you are prepared to throw a tornado into your life then go ahead! Had my 2nd at 42. There is no peace. Not only do you have double the demands (with same amount of time) but they trigger each other off into crazy behaviour!
I wouldn't change it for the world <3

what has the title of the thread to do with the question?

you can't want children that much if you have to ask random strangers online.

If you truly wanted a second child, you'd know fiercely that's what you need and would be TTC now.
My friend had her DS1 at 42, second at 43.
Both beautiful healthy boys

Thank you all and apologies if I posted in the wrong place, I m using it first time

If you can't decide, stick with one. My Mum had me at 40 and her age wasn't a negative. However it might not happen, or rather you are at greater risk of miscarriage. I couldn't carry one by this age. So you need to consider the impact of that as well.

With so little information, what makes you think any random internet stranger can give you solid life advice?

Incredibly random thread title

You haven't given anything like enough information

Are you in a happy relationship
Do you have a good steady income
How old is your other child
Do you have enough room for another child
And thats just for starters. Noone can give you an answer based just on your age

I presume the OP was asked for a title and she thought she meant her title?

Well except age isn't a number when it comes to fertility is it ? At 40 your chances are 50:50 and falling.

Yes and no

How tired are you? I'm 41 and there is not a chance in hell I'd want to introduce a new born into my life now..I'm knackered as it is!

Probably no but depends on a whole lot of other factors about your lifestyle. Also you say I, are you making the decision alone or is a partner involved?

Na youre passed it now, you should have thought about that when you were younger, you give the child serious disadvantages also, it's not called being in your prime for nothing!

Tips on how NOT to decide:

1. ask a bunch of strangers on the internet

I would paint it red.

The OP is clearly new, and instead of helping, some people are just being dicks.

Welcome @Elena300 .

If you were to include the information that @Kimmeridge suggested, you might get some more helpful answers.

You might want to edit your title too. It’s a title for your thread, such as, ‘Another baby at 40?’