Hi - I struggle at work a lot ( i work in a primary school). I am blamed for a lot of things that I havent done and been accused of saying and doing all sorts that I havent said and done. I am currently gettng help for mental health/anxiety as a result of all of this and obvioulsy looking for a new job. A new woman started in my office a few weeks ago and we hit it off and I was so pleased. I knew she had mental health issues and we both chatted about our experiences. I must admit, I did tell her how much I was struggling and some of the issues I had experienced at work and she spent many hours telling me about her traumas and issues too, both work related and relationship issues as she struggles with her husband and his behaviour. She went on the sick last week and my manager approached me and told me that I have made my colleagues mental health issues worse by talking to her about my problems and it is my fault that she has gone off on the sick, he was really angry with me. I have been told not to contact her but I am so distressed. the day before she went off, we had been out for an evening meal together and she made no mention that I had upset her, in fact, we had a great night and arranged a meet up at the weekend, I am so upset that I have caused my only ally to have mental health issues made worse. I feel like giving up. I havent heard from her since she went off.