Being called thick?

[ClemmyPennie]

Aibu to not speak to this man again?

Hes my ex and we are very low distance (like 9 hour flight). We started talking again and the plan was to go out and see him next month. We call every day.

I called yesterday and he didn’t pick up. He then said he felt too shit to talk, I asked if he wanted to talk just about why he’s feeling that and just for me to listen. His response was - you’re fucking thick.

Yes I shouldn’t have asked to talk again, but I just wanted to offer because I care about him. I think I just need to end whatever this is or am I being too sensitive?

I wish people would stop commenting this. My self esteem is fine, if I was putting up with it I would have engaged with it, or apologised to him. Instead I told him outright it wasn’t ok to talk to me like that and immediately archived his following messages - because I don’t tend to block anyone.

Yet you haven't blocked him and needed to ask on here if it was ok not to not to speak to this man again

Any woman who had an ounce of self respect would have terminated the conversation there and then, blocked and wouldn't need to seek validation from the internet as to whether she should speak to him again.

If you had higher self esteem you wouldn’t have thought to make this thread to get people’s opinions.

You would have known your worth and blocked him immediately and not wasted another second on him because he’s quite clearly a total twat.

You’re lucky he lives so far away and you won’t have to bump into him in the street. Block his number and social media’s and move on.

But he’s your ex. You have no future.

Well if you think that then great crack on.

You asked if you think YABU not to talk to this man again, the man who insulted you and lives 9 hrs away. I'd say of course YANBU to think that.

My point was you need to reflect on why you even think you are being remotely unreasonable in this scenario.

He clearly isn't a nice man and that's being polite. Best thing about him is he's 9 hrs away.

You asked “I think I just need to end whatever this is or am I being too sensitive?” which quite clearly implies you still think there may be some sort of future with this person (surely you wouldn’t have started the thread otherwise?) In view of this it is perfectly reasonable for people to suggest you may need to work on your self-esteem; if this wasn’t an issue, why would you even consider a future with someone so abusive? Don’t ask for advice then complain when people offer it in good faith!

Oh, and block him. There’s a first time for everything.

Who even calls people thick anymore? I would laugh at him for saying that and tell him to update his vocabulary.

I think that reasoning is silly tbh. Not using my situation as the example but people do get back together and it can work out. My friend broke up with her boyfriend and they are now married and just had their second.

An ex doesn’t mean no future. Every situation is different and complicated.

Yeah it’s very odd… no idea when I left heard it before then 😂

You're not moving on; he's not part of your life anymore but you're not setting boundaries.

Yes it's hard to say goodbye but you need to do it.

I think I'd just roll my eyes at the 'thick' comment.

Well he is rude and offensive. Dumb for good material not ifs or but. There will be a much better person for you.