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Raising a formal complaint at school

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 02/06/2025 14:35

My sons school are acting unlawfully towards him and have been for some time. All attempts to ask the headteacher SENCO to do their legal duty by my son are brushed off. I am literally gaslit every time I speak to her.
I am about to raise a formal complaint to the governing body but I’m scared 😂 will the school hate me and my kids forever? I
know I need to do it and I’m being stupid but I have a horrible habit of second guessing myself! Thanks x

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1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 20:15

If you read the thread before posting about a disabled 5yr old, you would see this thread is about arranging alternative provision for the time he isn’t in school and moving him to a specialist placement. Thanks for the insightful comment though

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

PennywisePoundFoolish · 16/06/2025 03:27

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

I'm aware you're just being goady, but rest assured that there are many different kinds of alternative provision available, and some special in challenge behaviour. Quite likely in a more suitable environment with experienced staff there will be less behaviour that challenges.

And anyway, Stephen Morgan wants every child through the school gate so 🤷‍♀️

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:44

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

I'm not sure whst the point of your post is really 🤔
But special schools generally are well geared up to deal with children with challenging behaviour
If you have nothing helpful to add other than your spiteful posts than maybe dont post anything ?

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 21:36

Yes he has a full time 1:1 but he is only allowed in school for 2hrs a day. The 1:1 therefore is used to support other children who are there full time without ehcps and 1:1s allocated to them….. I don’t doubt the school are stretched, but my son still needs and deserves an education 😕

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 16/06/2025 07:02

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

I really, really am! As if it’s not bad enough they don’t allow him to attend school (while happily using his funding for anyone but him) education has also been witheld from him by not putting any AP in place. All that fighting for an EHCP etc, only to receive literally scraps of his own funding, really leaves a bitter taste in the mouth 😕

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Todaywasbetter · 16/06/2025 17:43

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

honestly loads of children bite and draw blood through gloves. Litigation? thats jokes.

Madthings · 16/06/2025 18:48

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

As someone who works in complex needs and has been bitten, ww are trained ti deal with this. Yet it broke the skin, I have had to had hep b vaccination snd blood tests etc. But I knew the risks that come with the job and I was in wrong place at wrong time. It was unfortunate. Generally these incidents dont happen because we support children appropriately, and when things go wrong we look to see what WE should/coukd have done differently to support the child so they dont get distressed.

There are all kinds of different provisions, if the mainstream cant support then local authority shpuld provide somewhere that can. As is often the case parents get batted from school to LA, each blaming the other, no one taking responsibility for providing education. Literally say in emergency ehcp review of my own child with county and school arguing over who shoukd fund AP. They are a nightmare even knowing right law and legislation to quote. Parents regularly have to go via LGO, tribunal etc. The system is a mess but children are entitled to an education.

Am glad you are now being offered AP and hope it works out.

VibeCurator · 17/06/2025 10:08

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

This is awful!

KayP04 · 29/12/2025 02:35

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