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If someone you know had stolen a “lot”of money from their family member, would you saying?

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SUVW · 01/06/2025 18:08

So, long story short going back about 18 months ago my partners niece told me one of the many reasons why her and her brother have nothing to do with their mum (my partner’s sister), there had been difficult relationships between them and there mum for a number of years, but what she had done this time really shocked me.
There had been a time were both niece and nephew had tried to repair relationship with their mum and during this time she had asked nephew to borrow some money to pay a bill and he left his card with her to sort it out but got the card back later that day and thought nothing of it. Fast forward 12 months and nephew is in the process of buying his first home - which he has worked really hard saving for and he discovered that there is a lot less money in his savings account than there should be, yes you guessed it his mum had written down his card details and had been using his card/savings to make purchases order shopping and takeaways for nearly a year and totalling around £10k without his permission or knowledge! All whilst working and earning her own money. She has not paid him back, never apologised and even gaslighted him and his sister a number of times, they no longer have anything to do with her. Nephew never took it to the police, I think due to his younger siblings.
Heres my dilemma, she works in healthcare with vulnerable people and I feel that her employer should know what she’s capable of. Should I do anything about it or let it be and mind my own business?

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 01/06/2025 18:12

What can you say? Her son never involved police so you would be making what amounts to an unsubstantiated allegation. She will obviously deny it, presumably she has an enhanced DBS check so they will take no notice.

JHound · 01/06/2025 18:14

How did the nephew not notice money being siphoned from his account for a year.

Whaleandsnail6 · 01/06/2025 18:21

Without involving the police I doubt the employer could do anything ...its pretty much just gossip.

I do think she sounds vile and not like someone who should be working with the vulnerable but I don't know if I could go against nephews wishes not to report to the police so I think unfortunately you need to leave well alone

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