To say I was the most unpopular kid in school?

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Bullied, ridiculed , no one wanted anything to do with me

When I was sitting at a dinner table in the school canteen, one girl said about me so I could hear

“she’s the pits”

I'm sorry to hear that OP. That sort of thing can have a long term impact on self esteem. All it takes it for a key player or two to take against you/be bored and looking for entertainment and for the rest to follow like sheep. I hope you've managed to work through the experience and have a happy life now with some decent people in it.

Very sad for you

Thank you so much everyone who has responded to this thread ❤️

Have you had therapy? I was horrendously bullied at school, and thankfully I recovered my sense of self through positive relationships and therapy
all the best to you

That's so sad OP. Kids can be so cruel. I hope things have been better since?

Thank you and yes !!

That's sad. I'm glad to hear that things have recovered a bit since school.

I was regularly bullied and picked on throughout secondary school but I did also actually have some nice friends there too, which made it more bearable (even though it remained shit and I was always on edge).

Sorry to hear this. I agree there were some nice people at school

I was abused horrendously by my mum which made me a target no doubt!

I get it. I really hate going back to where my DP live (like visiting them, wish it was somewhere else) and wouldn't ever have any contact with the people I went to school with.

It's good things have improved for you.
How long ago were you at school? I know school bullying can have a real effect on people for the rest of their lives, I hope you have managed to put it behind you. x

Just as a sidenote, A girl who was at school with me many years ago, was called ugly by the mean girls. She wore glasses, was overweight, and was very introverted.
I saw that girl a few years after she had left school...she was utterly stunning.

20 years ago

I was in the same boat OP and it’s true that sticks with you forever, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come since then and you should be too.

It's a horrible feeling, I hope you've been able to move on as an adult and recognise your own worth

If it helps to have some solidarity, I was the school charity case, though didn't realise that til later - the one people were 'friends' with because their kind parents encouraged it. I was in a school of middle class children, I (and my family) had awful social skills, we were the only poor family as well and I stuck out like a sore thumb.

When we were due to move up to our local high school we had transition days where we learned what form groups we would be in. I didn't know anyone in mine. I quizzed and quizzed my teacher about what had happened, we had all had to name friends to help them decide and almost everyone in my school was going to the same high school so I couldn't understand. Eventually the teacher told me that no one in school had given my name as someone they wanted to move up with. It was one of the most shameful days of my life. I was so embarrassed, and I had to navigate high school completely alone.

I left the area at sixteen and never looked back. Thankfully I made friends as an adult!

You are still young then, with lots of life ahead of you.
Cock a snoot at the school bullies, the best way to get one over on anyone, is to live your life and put them in the past.
xxx

Definitely-,thank you !!

In the long run OP, when we’re all grown up, the most hated kids at school are not the ones who were bullied or who had few friends.
They are the bullies.

People don’t forget who these pathetic individuals are.