To be very angry

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My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. This is not the first time it has happened over this time. We are in a long distance relationship and he cannot communicate to me clearly when he will see me, he will mix up things in his calendar and then will only tell me a few days before the weekend that he won’t see me. We only see each other at weekends and that then means I am struggling to find things to keep myself busy.
I am frustrated that he cannot get his diary sorted out so that I am clear when I will see him and when I won’t.
He apologises and says he wants to be with me but his actions don’t show that at all. AIBU to be annoyed with him and want to end our relationship?

Nope, you’re not. Find someone who prioritises spending time with you.

Not unreasonable at all. I'd move on, he doesn't sound serious and I don't see how the relationship can progress with his approach to it. Doesn't seem to be going anywhere

If he wanted to spend time with you, he would.
If he’s not making plans or cancelling them, you’re not a priority for him.
I’m sorry but he’s just not that into you. If he was, you’d know.
Move on and find someone who knows how to treat you well.

Do you think he is waiting to see if other weekend plans happen? Then he sees you if they don't

How could he be “mixing up his diary”?

More like he waits until all his offers are in and then decides if the other offers are more important than seeing you.

He obviously does not prioritise you. I’d move on as this relationship is not going anywhere.

Yes I think if he has a better offer or he has nothing better to do he seems me

Plans are often made a few days before things happen both socially and for work. If he is prioritising those over you then you see where you feature in his list of priorities. Long distance isn't working for him nor you it seems.

Ignore what he says. Look at what he does. You are a placeholder until he gets a better offer. Stop wasting your time on him.

Have you been in a long term relationship for all.of the 2 years?

Dump him and find someone who prioritises you! Long distance relationships are very hard, and he doesn't seem that into you -.sorry OP!

Yes we have long distance all of the 2 years we have been seeing each other

How long distance is this? What plans and arrangements need to be made to travel? How old are you both? Do you travel to him?

I am wondering what stage you are at - do you live alone, with family, do you work full-time, do you have a good social circle to make plans and options, why are you in a long-distance relationship?

I would consider all these things and decide if I would want to continue the relationship after 2 years.

Of course you're not. Surely you don't need telling this

Long distance relationships only work if both parties are prepared to go the extra mile to make it work. He clearly isn't.

I ticked unreasonable because there is not a snowball’s chance in hell that he’ll change - and you are stupid unreasonable to expect it.

I am sure you know the saying…… “don’t treat someone as a priority if they only see you as an option”

Ergo…… step right back - and be prepared to walk…