AIBU to just want to be alone?!

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I love my husband. I love my sons. I love my parents. I love my friends. I'm so lucky to have lots of people in my life.

But please, please, Lord, could I just have some time ALONE?!?!?! I can hardly bear to talk to pr look at anyone.

Do you get it?

Currently enjoying alone time Ds worked nights so is snoozing away and DH is at his mum’s helping with her shopping.

It’s rare, but absolutely blissful so you are not unreasonable.

Try and carve out an hour or 2 a week. Your stress levels will thank you.

Yep. Totally

Yanbu my social battery only goes so far I need alone time to stay sane

Once a year DH takes (adult) DD to see his family for a few days. I count the days till they go - I spend all day being 'talked at' by people (mainly kids), come home and get 'talked at' by DH as he has been alone all day (retired) so seems to want to get his words allowance in! (He also has to have the TV or radio on constantly as background noise)

When he goes away I still have to go to work, but I finish as early as possible, and pretty much sit in silence all evening with just a book for company. It's bliss!

You only get this once a year?! How are you sane?

I hear you.

DH said what did I want to do about holidays this year. I said that to be honest, I'd like a couple of days by myself near a beach. No thinking about anybody else, just pleasing myself for a couple of days. Would be an amazing holiday for me. He didn't take it that well, which is fair enough.

I do this all the time.

OP, what is stopping you from going on a solo holiday or weekend away?

I go on lots of "errands" in my car to get alone time!! There is no place I'd rather be than driving along, by myself, listening to the radio and enjoying the peace 🚙

I am in fact currently sitting in my car in the driveway enjoying 5 minutes peace before I go in the house and mayhem resumes!!

I am planning 2 days in Bath by myself next weekend.

The guilt!

I feel like this all the time! I crave it a lot and love it when I get alone time, book, TV, cups of tea, look around the shops, solo train journey. Although I do feel guilty beforehand sometimes. Makes seeing the DCs again after so much sweeter and DH too I suppose lol

Why do you need to feel guilty to get some time to yourself? If you have small DC you can take it in turns with your partner.
I dont understand why being married means you have to spend all your time together 365 days a year. I don't feel guilty about taking time to myself at all.

Yes I get this! Dh went out on Friday and I sat quietly enjoying the peace and I feel so much better for it

God my post above was absolutely illiterate. But you get the gist.

Communicate with your partner.

“DH, I’m feeling rather stretched out with life atm and would appreciate being able to find some time to be alone. Let’s look at our calendars and figure out a good slot for when I can guarantee some time alone weekly.”

It doesn’t need to take up a whole day if you’re short on time as a family with other commitments. Even if it’s an hour to go to a coffee shop alone or for DH to take the kids out swimming and for lunch. Make it happen.

I also take a week to myself every year. Went to the Cullinan Belek and OMG, ‘‘twas amazing. DH gave me a grand as it was my 60th this year, so I splurged!

I usually do Crete or Rhodes, all inclusive so I don’t have to think about cooking. I just sit on the balcony with my full kindle with a cuppa and can quite easily lose a whole week that way.

Mum guilt is shit, but my kids are both adults now so no guilt there.

my brain is then all chilled for at least the next 6 months and then it’s time for DH and me to go away. He’s as introverted as me so we tend to ignore holiday ‘friends’ overtures.