To be hurt from the drunk name calling

[Justwed2023]

Please tell me if I’m overreacting.
my husband went on a night out last night to watch the football and obviously got drunk.
I had text him earlier that night to ask if he had taken a key. He said no.
When I was in bed I couldn’t sleep because I knew I had to get up and let him in.
in the end I decided to hide a key for him.
I text him to tell him.
He got in but this morning I checked the ring doorbell and I heard him calling me a fat fuck. I’m guessing at that point he hadn’t read my message and thought I’d locked him out.
I’m not massive but I probably am overweight and I do get insecure about it.
I only told him yesterday that I was feeling insecure but now I’m so upset by that comment. Do I forget it as he was drunk or confront him?
thank you in advance

Do you really have to ask?

Completely unacceptable for your Prince Charming husband to refer to you as a “fat fuck”. Being drunk is no excuse.

What grown man doesn’t take keys with him on a night out and expects his wife to wait up to let him in? That plus the charming insult makes me think this is not the first time he’s been a complete tosser. YANBU and should absolutely call him out.

Not exactly Prince Charming clearly. Thank you for your reply x

Not overreacting. Is he always so quick to be abusive?

Not clear why taking a key with him wasn't an option, unless he's one of these people who gets so utterly wasted that he loses everything and soils himself every time he goes out

I have found over the years that people say what they really think when they’re drunk.

What a horrible man.

I'm trying to imagine what name I might call my partner if I was drunk and frustrated....

The worst that I could imagine would be 'that stupid idiot' or maybe 'arsehole'.

His wording does suggest a level of disrespect that I would find v v v upsetting. I'd struggle to forget it.

And I guess that's the issue, he might say 'i was drunk,I didn't mean it', but ultimately you can't forget it even if that's true. He really needs to make amends to show how sorry he is that his words have hurt you

Just play him the video and see what he has to say.

Drunk or not that's a vile thing to say.

Obviously got drunk? Lots of people including my husband go to watch football and do not get drunk but I will say on here as I and others have said he is adult and needs his own key or sleep elsewhere

YANBU. What a vile excuse of a man. Next time he sleeps outside or takes some fucking responsibility for his own key.

I know LTB comments get stick on here but that is abusive, if my DH said that I’d pack his shit and tell him bye.
Life is far too short for comments that leave you insecure and miserable. I’d rather be single and poor than with someone who says vile things about me behind my back.

Don’t put yourself in the position of directly confronting him. Tell him he has hurt your feelings and if he wants to know why, he should watch the cam footage. He will then see himself at his worst. How he responds after he has done this will say a lot about who he is.

Thank you everyone

Is your username accurate, are you just 2 years into the marriage? If you don’t have kids yet, do have a good long think about whether this is really the sort of man you want to spend you life with. If he’s like this at this stage it’s not going to get better without you putting down some pretty strong boundaries.

I can’t get over on so many threads where men go out at night and get wasted, they never take a key. Can’t remember the last time I left the house without a front door key

True at least this one didn't shit the bed.