DH issues

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Together for 25 years, married 17 years. 3 children, I do all housework and cooking; we both have work full time. ln the last 6 months we’ve had nights out with mutual friends, both of which have ended with DH in a strop about something I’ve alleged to cause offence to him ….i don’t think I have at all. Both times I’ve been in tears and mutual friends comforting me. To be Frank it’s embarrassing. I think I’ve had enough. Do I really want the rest of my life censored for fear of offending DH??! I love life and believe in you only live once. AIBU for questioning my marriage??!
OP

Hmm, had either or your been drinking alcohol, not that is wrong, but to the extent that it may have changed your behaviour. Saying you were in tears seems like it affected you quite a bit. Any idea's on what offended him?
Is the relationship just done and you'd like to leave?

No not done at all. It his reactions to the slightest comment that is ridiculous- basically contemptuous behaviour

Any idea what might have changed his behaviour in the last few months?
You know you don't have to live this way.
It's up to you if you want out.

Only you will know whether you want to go.
If you do then plan properly and do it swiftly, it's always tricky but if you have had enough then you can work hard and be away.

Sounds like you already know the answer to your question. If you want to get a divorce then get one. If your spouse is dismissive of you in front of other people it rather begs the question of how he treats you at home.
As for doing all the cooking and cleaning even though you both work full time: Oh hell no! Unless you are someone who has greater expectations than your spouse does of what's clean and what's nice to eat. Presumably there is some trade off here? Does your husband sort out DIY projects/garden/financial matters or however else you divide those tasks??? There is, after all, more to sqauring away a home than just cooking and cleaning - though clearly you mentioned this division of labour to suggest that you are the one doing all the work and your husband is a bit of a tool?

Had a good think over last few days and think I was a little OTT when I was considering separating. Overall we are good and I thought of life without DH and it didn’t seem that good to be honest. Everyone has their ups and downs but I know he has my back and will be there no matter what, as well as being 100% faithful which I am too. He works hard and is a great dad. I think I needed to look at my life without him and it’s one I don’t want.

On a side note we are both going to reign in the drinking!