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PlodAlongMum · 31/05/2025 12:28

Oh my gosh. For the first time in years I have found a job advert that has completely stirred my passion and inspired me. I am absolutely desperate to be offered the role. It's my dream job (and incredibly, it's really near by where I live!) There has been no equivalent post in this location for literally years and years.

I've applied for the post and in theory I have everything they need. I've had a pre-interview meet up with some of the interview panel and they were so nice! Now I want the job even more. I could really see myself in the post and working with these colleagues.

I'm obsessed. I submitted my application form last week and made a mistake in how I phrased something (I've got quite high standards and I would be reluctant to hire someone that made this error) and now all I keep doing is ruminating on how I've ruined a once in a life time chance. There was no way to change the application once submitted. I feel like I self sabotaged unconsciously and I'm so angry with myself.

If I do scrape an interview (I might still, despite the mistake, as I am a v strong candidate in terms of experience and the panel members I met were very nice and may be more forgiving than me) then I will b over the moon, but how the hell do I make sure I don't mess up the interview?

It's all I can think about.

I'm quite senior in my profession (despite this ridiculous Mumsnet post perhaps not giving that impression!!) and have always enjoyed job interviews and taken them in my stride. I've never been obsessed or desperate like this before. But I can recognise how this type of post will probably not come up for another 5 or so years, so this is my one and only shot at my dream job and I'm terrified I'll mess it up!!

Help me get a grip! I can think of nothing else. I can't sleep. Can't eat. Can't concentrate on my current job. Am forgetting things. It's ridiculous. And if I don't get the job I know I'll be devastated.

Please tell me to snap out of it and stop being ridiculous!!

Ahhhgggg help me before my brain explodes with rumination and worry!!!

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HoskinsChoice · 31/05/2025 12:31

Did you send in the application before or after the meeting you had with the panel?

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PlodAlongMum · 31/05/2025 12:34

HoskinsChoice · 31/05/2025 12:31

Did you send in the application before or after the meeting you had with the panel?

Before. I wanted to wait (which would have been sensible and given me a chance to rectify my error. It wasn't a typo-type error as I checked for those about twenty times!! It was a phrasing that I thought was a good idea at the time but on reflection I now realise was foolish and wrong!) but the job ad said 'we reserve the right to close applications early if enough applications are received' or something like that, and I didn't want to miss out by waiting for the meet-up!

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rivalsbinge · 31/05/2025 12:39

I’d personally embrace the excitement!! It sounds like a great opportunity and you’ve done all you can. Fingers crossed.

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PlodAlongMum · 31/05/2025 12:40

rivalsbinge · 31/05/2025 12:39

I’d personally embrace the excitement!! It sounds like a great opportunity and you’ve done all you can. Fingers crossed.

Thanks! That's a good way to look at it! I'll try and embrace it! (Harder said than done! but definitely worth trying)

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HoskinsChoice · 31/05/2025 12:53

PlodAlongMum · 31/05/2025 12:34

Before. I wanted to wait (which would have been sensible and given me a chance to rectify my error. It wasn't a typo-type error as I checked for those about twenty times!! It was a phrasing that I thought was a good idea at the time but on reflection I now realise was foolish and wrong!) but the job ad said 'we reserve the right to close applications early if enough applications are received' or something like that, and I didn't want to miss out by waiting for the meet-up!

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If they've met you, liked you and you meet their criteria, mistakes or phraseology will not make a difference in their selection process. Don't stress, it will be fine!

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PlodAlongMum · 31/05/2025 12:54

HoskinsChoice · 31/05/2025 12:53

If they've met you, liked you and you meet their criteria, mistakes or phraseology will not make a difference in their selection process. Don't stress, it will be fine!

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Thank you! I hope you are right 🤞

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PlodAlongMum · 06/06/2025 08:54

I am still waiting to hear if invited to interview.

The wait is killing me. I want this job so so much!

If I don't hear by Monday I'll contact them, but just praying I hear today.

This is ridiculous, I've never wanted a job so badly!!

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Starseeking · 06/06/2025 10:27

Try and relax and keep calm about it, instead of building it up in your head, otherwise you risk a big depression if it doesn’t go your way.

In the last month I’ve got down to the last two candidates of four different roles, and not got each because the other person edged it or was x at the final interview.

Each time I’ve done the work in envisioning myself in the role, and tried not to obsess, because the outcome is not guaranteed, no matter how good you are (one of my feedback sessions was that I gave a brilliant interview, but the other person had worked with them previously, so they knew their work 🙄🙄🙄).

I hope you get an interview, and good luck with it when you do!

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PlodAlongMum · 06/06/2025 17:34

Starseeking · 06/06/2025 10:27

Try and relax and keep calm about it, instead of building it up in your head, otherwise you risk a big depression if it doesn’t go your way.

In the last month I’ve got down to the last two candidates of four different roles, and not got each because the other person edged it or was x at the final interview.

Each time I’ve done the work in envisioning myself in the role, and tried not to obsess, because the outcome is not guaranteed, no matter how good you are (one of my feedback sessions was that I gave a brilliant interview, but the other person had worked with them previously, so they knew their work 🙄🙄🙄).

I hope you get an interview, and good luck with it when you do!

Thank you. I'm sorry you didn't get the posts you applied for, but it sounds v positive that you reached the top 2! Well done!

I'm not normally like this about job interview. In the past I've actually tended to be quite relaxed and enjoy the whole process. I think the problem is that I am fully aware if I don't get the job, something else similar is unlikely to come up for several years, and even then, there's no guarantee I'd get it. So this feels like a 'now or never' situation

I will try and relax! It is Friday night so maybe some wine is called for!

Thanks for your supportive post

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BristolDolly22 · 06/06/2025 17:57

Hello!
I fairly recently submitted an application where one section was so full of typos, mistakes and words squished together that it looked like it had been typed by a drunk squirrel.
(I have no idea what happened as the rest of the application was completely error free Confused)
anyway, I still got an interview, didn’t get the job but came a very close second to the person who had actually been promised the job all along and got asked specifically to apply for another job that was coming out in a couple of months.

Nobody mentioned my drunk squirrel moment!

Good luck with your dream job…please come back and update us!

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