Anyone else feel like it's one disaster after another??

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My life just never seems to be straight forward. It's literally one thing after another. My late dad was always unwell during my childhood, then him mum divorced me and my brother were left with dad while mum went off and lived with another guy, then as he got older and unwell that was all left for us.
When he passed away all the legal stuff was left for me to sort out, my brother just acted stupid like he didn't know what to do. Then he left dad's dog with me, jacked his job in and went travelling for 2years. The dog was part of the family so I took him without question, his teeth were manky so I registered him with the vet and got them sorted..
He lived with us almost 3 years then sadly had to be pts. He was almost 18 so did really well.
After he passed the house just wasn't the same without a dog. I didn't want to get a puppy as that's obviously a long commitment so I looked for an older dog. I know there are risks obviously having a senior dog. I found a chihuahua x that was 11. I asked the woman rehoming her if she is in general good health any problems.. are her teeth OK. Yes she says. She has 1 eye I know this is quite common with these dogs so I didn't let that worry me.
The woman handed her over with a crappy food bowl and a dirty bed and her lead and was gone. No food or anything.
After she left I noticed a large lump on her chest. I asked her about it through messages and she said the vet looked when she had her eye out and said its nothing to worry about. Well I took her to the vets yesterday and obviously asked them and he thinks it's a tumour on her nipple and ideally wants it off and examined.. £1000 bill.
I just think ffs why does it always happen to me? I'm worried shitless now that the poor thing has cancer and I'm going to break my sons heart. They knew I had kids and had lost a dog. She was also riddled with fleas. My husband said well regardless of everything she's ours now and we have to do what we can and they clearly didn't deserve her but I feel like a right mug tbh. It's not the 1st time I've been taken for an idiot because of me being too soft.

I would say your focusing on the negatives. And negatives spread over many years.
Your parents divorced your dad was in ill health it was unfair you were left to care for him when your mum left, 100%

The dog was left with you- you could have said sorry bro I'm also going travelling so ddog will need to be rehomed. Then dog died, sadly they do.

Then after some time you got another dog which has medical issues which may have grown/gotten worse and old owner didn't realise, that's not unbelievable but regardless pay the bill or don't, wait and see what happens next.

You've obv had happy points in between. Married? Healthy kids? Why you focusing on the negatives?

Also, kindly I wouldn't say the dog being left with you, dying and a new dog requiring care are classed as disasters.

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People are dying Kim 😅

Well done on taking in the dog.
It sounds like you're really going to give him a chance, poor boy.

This 1000 times.

You've had a tough life in some respects things can be worse.

Have a moan, it's totally normal to do so but from what you've written, your life hasn't been the worst and as someone who works in Child Protection Law / Care Proceedings, perspective really is everything.

Give yourself today to wallow and tomorrow, chin up and crack on.

I agree with the PP. it does sound like focussing on the negatives. It does sound like you’ve had tough times, but the dogs are just doing what dogs do. Taking on an older dog is always more likely to come with health issues. In this case it sounds like the previous owner didn’t give a damn and just wanted rid. Are things ok in general?

Well yes it depends on your outlook I guess but for me life just never seems straightforward. I have 3 children, eldest and youngest are on the spectrum and both moderately deaf. I do count my blessings that they're not profoundly deaf and are high functioning. My husband lost his job before Christmas. We are fortunate enough that we have money my dad left me so we aren't on the bones of our arse but obviously I would be happier if he was employed. I have a pt cleaning job. But it does feel like everything I do goes wrong 😆

She is lovely bless her, I've got the procedure booked for Monday morning I just hope that she's OK. On the positive side she eats and poos well, she's lively the lump doesn't seem to be causing any discomfort so i just have to wait and see i guess

You sound like a kind person - the dog is probably much better off with you to love her!

Try and re-write your life with all the positives. You had a wonderful dog in your life for 18 years, you have at least 3 children and a husband who (could be) a nice fella. You don't seem to have major health issues. You have a home etc.

It makes a huge difference how you frame t
Your life to how you get through it.

I have shed loads of health issues but see some of them as a weird blessing as they have taught me to appreciate the good days and be happy Iive in the UK. My kids have SEN which make then into the quirky characters they are today. It's amazing once you decide to ignore the bad and focus on the good how much better you feel about life.

This just sounds like normal life to me.

My life has been such a shitfest that I decided to adopt the Buddhist way of believing that life equals suffering. If anything goes right I consider it a bonus but very short lived.