Is it DP or my PMS?

[Candleinalantern]

as probably a lot of women my mood changes just before my period and during the first day or two of my period, I’m just a bit more sensitive than usual, I’m very aware of it and try to control my reactions generally when it’s these days and it probably makes me a bit quieter than usual or not myself as my mood is low and I don’t want to over react.

my issue is my DP likes to make comments about it, if I disagree with anything rightly or wrongly I get ‘oh it’s that time is it’

this morning he has told me sarcastically how he loves spending the weekend with me when I’m on my period, then separately that I’m resentful and just then told me he wasn’t going to speak to me for the next 3 days after I made a comment that he hadn’t flushed the toilet.

now I know I’m being over sensitive to be upset about this but it’s making me feel like I’m treading on eggshells and it’s making me even more conscious of it like I’m some sort of monster and I honestly don’t think I am, I just get upset more easily.

AIBU? Is it the PMS or is he mean?

I have a theory that PMT use actually just the scales taking from our eyes for a few days a month and wet see things how they really are (and don't censor/take the shite we normally would).

I have PMDD but I'm not being trite, obviously there's a lot more going on.

I think your DP is being very unfair

I do agree and I use it to my advantage sometimes in work where I have been avoiding something as I have to tell someone not to do something and find during this time I will be more direct and deal with issues more efficiently (I’m generally conflict avoidant)

Do you announce that you're on your period? Or can he tell just from your mood? Because if he can accurately tell from how your interactions change then I'd say he's got a point, but if these comments only start once he knows you are then he needs to take a long hard look at why he suddenly feels the need to try and bully his partner.

there was a reason I told him but I don’t usually announce it to him

He sounds like an absolute dick.

You're bending over backwards to please him by “trying to control your reactions” and labeling yourself as “over sensitive”. Stand up for yourself.

You said something to him about not flushing, and he's going to give you the silent treatment for three days?

He did something gross, you called him on it, and he's the one who's overreacting.

You know the silent treatment is an abusive tactic, don't you?