How to deal with this, neighbours

CherryPi9 · 2025-05-30T00:55:42+00:00

I live in a new build property which is owned by the council and my neighbour leaves for work most nights around this time. However, they are so loud, banging, slamming front door, car doors, revving off loudly. I don’t think they are very approachable. From what I can gather as I don’t really see them often. How would you deal with this as it either wakes me or young DD up and it wakes me in a panic all the banging.

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CherryPi9 · 30/05/2025 01:58

I presume leaving for work anyway but it’s the same time most nights.

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PortillosRedTrousers · 30/05/2025 02:03

I don’t think there is much you can do if you want approach them and ask.
Thicker curtains and blinds? Perhaps being new build there isn’t a lot of planting which might stop the sound of the noise bouncing around the houses.
Noise is often amplified when everything is still at night. Eventually you will get used to it.

Tessasanderson · 30/05/2025 10:58

What time are they leaving?

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/05/2025 11:04

Most people keep themselves to themselves: that doesn’t mean they’re “not approachable”, just that you don’t know them. If you aren’t willing to approach them to ask if they could try to be quieter with the front door, you really just have to live with it. You’ll become more accustomed to it. Unless they’re idling the engine for ages, or shouting to people back in the house from the end of the driveway, a car door slamming and engine noise as someone drives away once a day really does just fall into everyday living noise, it’s not something the council are going to consider antisocial behaviour - the council can’t exactly ask them to push their car to the end of the street before starting the engine, can they?

Dotjones · 30/05/2025 11:12

Report them to the council. They'll probably ask you to keep a diary of what happens/when/for how long. Once they've got the evidence they will be able to either approach the person directly or send an office round to witness the noise - which shouldn't be an issue if it's a regular thing.

Whatever you do, don't approach the person directly, you're not trained and don't know how they'll react/whether they're violent.

BlueMum16 · 30/05/2025 11:15

Dotjones · 30/05/2025 11:12

Report them to the council. They'll probably ask you to keep a diary of what happens/when/for how long. Once they've got the evidence they will be able to either approach the person directly or send an office round to witness the noise - which shouldn't be an issue if it's a regular thing.

Whatever you do, don't approach the person directly, you're not trained and don't know how they'll react/whether they're violent.

How dramatic.

rainbowstardrops · 30/05/2025 11:15

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/05/2025 11:04

Most people keep themselves to themselves: that doesn’t mean they’re “not approachable”, just that you don’t know them. If you aren’t willing to approach them to ask if they could try to be quieter with the front door, you really just have to live with it. You’ll become more accustomed to it. Unless they’re idling the engine for ages, or shouting to people back in the house from the end of the driveway, a car door slamming and engine noise as someone drives away once a day really does just fall into everyday living noise, it’s not something the council are going to consider antisocial behaviour - the council can’t exactly ask them to push their car to the end of the street before starting the engine, can they?

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I agree with this. Are they leaving their car idling for ages looking at you shitty neighbour or talking loudly/on their phone or whatever?
If they’re starting the car and pulling off straight away then I’m not sure what you can do about that unfortunately

Noodles1234 · 30/05/2025 15:16

If you do decide to approach them, keep it very calm and maybe a friendly enquiry, something along the lines of “oh do you work nights? That must be hard to do sometimes” then ask about their job etc, then “we wondered if you worked nights as a couple of times we’ve heard something while in bed, I woke with a jolt thinking it could be someone breaking into a car, I hope you don’t mind but I checked out the window and saw it was you / wife”.

Mention it matter of fact with a care free tone, the seed may plant for the future.

if it is just normal noise, it could be just normal and as anti social hours, but be mindful of noise you make leaving for work etc when they are sleeping as they may also as you / your family to keep noise down.

Newbie8918 · 30/05/2025 16:23

Dotjones · 30/05/2025 11:12

Report them to the council. They'll probably ask you to keep a diary of what happens/when/for how long. Once they've got the evidence they will be able to either approach the person directly or send an office round to witness the noise - which shouldn't be an issue if it's a regular thing.

Whatever you do, don't approach the person directly, you're not trained and don't know how they'll react/whether they're violent.

Report them to the council???? For working nights 🤣

It just sounds like someone going through the motions of leaving the house! If they are slamming a little too loudly, speak to them!

Northernladdette · 30/05/2025 16:50

Newbie8918 · 30/05/2025 16:23

Report them to the council???? For working nights 🤣

It just sounds like someone going through the motions of leaving the house! If they are slamming a little too loudly, speak to them!

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No, report them to the council for making unnecessary noise when leaving home at night 🙄

StoorieHoose · 30/05/2025 16:51

What time are they leaving at?

Youdontseehow · 30/05/2025 16:57

StoorieHoose · 30/05/2025 16:51

What time are they leaving at?

It’s in the OP - written at 0155 and OP says “around this time”.

Flicitytricity · 30/05/2025 17:06

Many years ago, when I was young and pig ignorant, we would arrive home in the early hours, happily screeching goodbye to friends dropping us off, and often having lengthy conversations about where to go next weekend.
We had lovely neighbours, and the chap next door just casually said ' tell your mate I quite fancy 'ggggh' next weekend, and Clive needs to check his spark plugs , deffo some misfiring there'.
We were mortified. We were in our own bubble and never considered we were being loud.
We never, ever behaved like that again, and lived happily with lovely neighbours for several years.
Just talk to them 🙂

BlueMum16 · 30/05/2025 17:36

Northernladdette · 30/05/2025 16:50

No, report them to the council for making unnecessary noise when leaving home at night 🙄

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First thing council will ask...'have you spoken to them'?

Northernladdette · 30/05/2025 18:32

BlueMum16 · 30/05/2025 17:36

First thing council will ask...'have you spoken to them'?

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I was just putting things into perspective, seeing as the responder seemed to find it so amusing 🙄
Consideration costs nowt 🤷‍♀️

PerkyShark · 30/05/2025 18:36

The council are going to do absolutely nothing about someone leaving their house at night. They struggle to deal with actual nosie abatement issues so you are dreaming if you think anyone is going to deal with this.

MummoMa · 31/05/2025 22:42

So they are leaving for work in the middle of the night? I don't think there's much you can do about that, unless they are revving and idling for ages.

My son comes home from work sometime between 12 and 1 and shuts the front door. Unless you want him to climb in a window I don't think there's anything that can be done about that kind of very normal sound.

PortillosRedTrousers · 01/06/2025 01:56

Flicitytricity · 30/05/2025 17:06

Many years ago, when I was young and pig ignorant, we would arrive home in the early hours, happily screeching goodbye to friends dropping us off, and often having lengthy conversations about where to go next weekend.
We had lovely neighbours, and the chap next door just casually said ' tell your mate I quite fancy 'ggggh' next weekend, and Clive needs to check his spark plugs , deffo some misfiring there'.
We were mortified. We were in our own bubble and never considered we were being loud.
We never, ever behaved like that again, and lived happily with lovely neighbours for several years.
Just talk to them 🙂

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Me too and for the same reasons. Ignorance. It took a neighbour saying, “Let me know how you get on at Baker’s (nightclub) next Saturday, I have also heard good things” to make me realise I was being too loud.