AIBU about wedding accomodation allocation

[anotherpyjamaday]

Genuinely don't know if I'm being unreasonable or whether I should say something!
Husband's nephew is getting married in August. Over a year ago a group chat was set up asking about who needed accommodation booking at the cost of £150 per night. We put our names down for this as the venue is an hour away from where we live and it's always nice to stay together as family, have breakfast together etc.
We've just found out that we've been allocated a room in a hotel which is separate from the venue (about 5 mins away in a taxi) when everyone else in the family has been allocated rooms at the venue. When I googled the hotel I saw that I could book a room there for the same night of the wedding for £90 however we have already paid the £150 directly to the couple getting married as they have block booked all the accomodation.
Am I being unreasonable to feel unhappy about this? Should we speak to our nephew about it or just let it be and enjoy the day?

Hi DN. We don't want to stay in the annexe, so are happy to sort our own accommodation out. Could you send us the money back and we'll book elsewhere. Looking forward to the wedding!

Job done.

This is a good response. Not passive aggressive, nice and clear and honest.

It may be that £150 was correct for the wedding venue rooms but that’s overflowed so they’ve now found this other hotel. Turns out it’s cheaper and they may be returning the £60 later on. Give them a chance to sort it out, don’t assume they’ve done something dishonest.

I am guessing if you have just found out allocation then likely they plan to refund you but have just not done it yet but worth asking

Thanks everyone, all points of view are useful and much appreciated 👍

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Every wedding I have been to you just arrange and choose your own place to stay anyway even if it was in the wedding or reception hotel.

The hotel we got married at wouldn't let us book out all their rooms (even at a full rate) as they liked to have some non wedding guests (longer stays I guess?). I remember members of the family telling me there were free rooms in the hotel when they looked online - I'm not sure how they/if they were blocked from booking them independently.

Yes, same here, and the hotel manager was a friend of my dad! He said it's actually not financially viable for reasonably popular hotels to book out a hotel just for a weekend as they miss out on people who would have booked for longer, as well as the regular customers who are really important too.