Aibu to leave my home

[FastMintSheep]

Hi i need to leave my home due to domestic violence i rent my home from my local housing association im the main tenant i live with my children and partner who is listed as a occupant will my local council refuse to help me because of this?could they just say to me chuck him out as he is just a occupant?I don’t want to start the ball rolling if they are going to refuse to help me,I know there are things like court orders etc but I know my partner he will never leave me alone he has a big family going through police and courts is not a option for me any advice appreciated thankyou

Please contact Women's Aid, OP. They can offer advice and support on what to do next. They know the tenancy laws etc. They have a live chat service, or you can email them. Home - Women's Aid

Can you call a domestic abuse charity and ask for their support? They can speak to housing or get you into a shelter?

Women fleeing DV are considered a priority for rehousing by most councils. However, in many areas they have to go into temporary accommodation initially, as there's rarely a property immediately available.

Your housing association might be able to change the locks for you if you can get him out. It's useful for you to have police involved as they can help too.

I have spoken to them the woman said to speak to shelter as she is not sure 🤔 f the law as have my own tenancy and my partner is a occupant I don’t want to make myself intentionally homeless I thought I would be protected 😢 my partner will never leave me alone I am a white woman he is a Asian male from a big community cousins everywhere

It wouldn’t make any difference even if he was locked up he would still get to me,I have put my trust in the police before I will not do it again

As the main tenant even fleeing DV you could be seen as making yourself homeless.
As an Ocupant you can ask him to leave.
Speak to your housing officer, they maybe able to help you and also get a quick managed move quick.

If only it was as easy as asking him to leave,but I will certainly speak to a housing officer tomorrow morning thankyou

Are you planning to flee to a new location where he cannot find you? As I think that’s a different situation and i’d be very surprised if they refused to house you. I’d expect usually that you’d take him off the tenancy but given you’re saying you’d be unsafe staying in the property if you end the relationship, i’m sure they won’t refuse to help you. Can you make an appointment with the housing team at your local council?

House swap to another area?

Please don't even consider leaving without your dc..

thankyou for your reply I am going to contact them first thing in the morning

I would never do that my children are the only reason I’m still here I have been with partner 17 years we have been through hell and back

Most councils do a scheme whereby you can choose to relocate; often it is far though. i think its home choice(?)

like others have said contact local charities ( https://refuge.org.uk/ being the biggest one)

if you have a set housing worker who has told you this ask to speak to a higher up or someone else as sometimes they can just fob it off or might not be trained in domestic violence etc. or even at the council ask to speak to a domestic violence housing specialist.

Not great, but I think if you can, you need to go to a refuge with your children. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Another poster makes a good point regarding DV training. The housing will have officers trained in DV, just not necessarily all of them. They may have a safegaurding team/specialist.
Depending on your association (some span multiple councils) if you are willing to relocate you may be able to move a good distance away.
Also see what Shelter advise.

Thankyou very much

There's also legal specialists Rights of Women.

@FastMintSheep did you manage to speak with your HO?