How would you split the holiday costs

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How would you split costs for this holiday.
Large holiday home split between three families.
Family 1
2 adults, 3 kids aged 11 15 and 17 will take 3 bedrooms

Family 2
2 adults, 2 kids aged 8 and 14 will take 2 bedrooms

Family 3
2 adults, 2 kids aged 5 and 9 will take 2 bedrooms

How would you split both the house rental cost and the big food shop cost?

Accommodation by rooms and food by number of families (maybe bring alcohol separately).

We’re splitting accommodation per person not room. So 5:4:4. Our children are younger, but per bed made most sense. We’re the largest group as a family of 4. Per adult didn’t work because of single parents and we’d have ended up paying the same as a family of 3 which isn’t fair. I imagine we will do the same with food when the time comes.

Accomadation should be straight thirds, or 3:2:2 - and it probably doesn't make a massive difference between the 2 sets of maths.

Food is trickier - the teens will eat significantly more than a primary aged child! I think probably 9:7:6 - adult and teens are 2, primary kids 1. Everyone brings their own alcohol.

I look forward to all the threads that will drop out of this holiday when it come to it!

I have been going away with friends and our kids for last 9 years. We fall over ourselves trying to get everyone else to take the nicer rooms, or, for example, I am a single parent with two kids and my friend is married with 3. She always pushes that she pays more. I pushed that we split equally. It’s an ongoing joke. Sometimes she “wins” and sometimes I “win” (and then she will find ways of paying for more things than me!)

why? We love and all trust one another

Exactly this when staying in the house, eating in the house.
However if going out to eat, I would ask the bill to be split into family 1, 2 and 3.

Rent a third each. Family with older children could contribute more. I just wouldn't enter into this type of arrangement.

Did the first family insist on needing 2 rooms for their children which meant you needed to find a bigger more expensive place? Or is there just an extra room available and makes sense they use it? That would influence whether splitting between number of rooms or just thirds.

With food split by number of people. Their kids are older and will presumably eat a fair bit more, as well as having an extra teen to feed. So either they just put an extra lump into the food kitty or you work it all out exactly, I guess depends on how hard up you all are.

For meals out work out roughly what each family has had.

Been there...done that. The groups I went with ate and drank like pigs as they knew others were sharing the cost...beware! Never again!

Divide by the number of people then multiple by 5 or 4 depending on the family.

These were presumably very close friends for you to have chosen to holiday with them?

You would divide food by 3 even though family 1 is going to eat significantly more than family 3?

Accommodation 3: 2: 2

Food is trickier. For meals out everyone gets a separate tab is probably easiest.
Maybe everyone buys their own snacks and drinks but the basic food shop is divided by 3. Teens eat a lot but small children also eat a load of stuff others don’t want- yoghurts, raisins etc.

Unbelievably they were my own family. Bitching and bickering from start to finish.

And prior to holiday…
no hint that they were like this?

Things like...we bought nice bread...they bought cheap bread. We had the odd drink...they drank like fish. I am waiting for comments from victims of these greedy users....

Well sounds ghastly
so why arrange to go on holiday with them?

I think I had missed the red flags...I made allowances for occasions where they were short of money or forgotten their bank card..(so they said).

Goodness.. this was family and they’d pulled the wool over your eyes all your life until this holiday!

needless to say… avoid going again!

If it was me using the extra room I would 100% offer to pay more but I'd be a bit miffed if it was deemed fair to pay 3/7 of the total cost. 5/13 would probably be fair. Again food wise I'd expect to pay more but would probably suggest i bought more snacks as that's where teenagers will eat more. One more portion of spag bol isn't exactly going to break the bank. We have a similar set up with friends and I do get a bit annoyed that the bigger family never recognise or talk about the fact that we have to pay extra for a bigger house that they don't then contribute extra too. I wouldn't even mind splitting 3 ways but it's the fact they never mention it which winds me up a bit. But they are great in other ways so you have to move on because I don't think they are doing it to be tight.

We would just divide by 3 for the number of families

Accommodation costs would be 3-2-2; and food would be 5-4-4

alcohol probably between 3 unless 17yo sharing

Rental by 3 assuming the kid with the single room gets the smallest. Food is trickier, I’d split by person but count the 3rd family as 3 not 4.

I would split the accommodation in 7ths according to the number of rooms occupied

Food? I would split it equally in thirds. That is what I experienced growing up, the eating together aspect is more of a shared experience or something. But I know people are poorer/tighter/meaner these days - at least from what I read on here

I’d split 3 ways. I’m not tight with close family and friends.

3:2:2 house
food presume it’s 7 nights so larger family caters 3 nights other family caters 2 each.