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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be fed up of hearing about friend's pregnancy and new baby?

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pugglesnuggle · 21/05/2008 11:06

Friend has just decided to start ttc for another baby, she already has a 6 year old dd.

But she is driving me mad. Firstly, she keeps going on about ?when the baby is born? then yesterday she talked about taking her dd out of after school activities because of not having time to fit all that in with a new baby as well.

She keeps talking about all the things she?ll be able to eat soon and her conversation doesn?t include anything that isn?t about pregnancy and the new baby.

I know she?s excited but she?s not even pregnant yet.

Ibu?

OP posts:

bidibidi · 21/05/2008 12:59

Think you are being unsupportive, especially if turns out she can't conceive naturally. Just humour her, let her talk a bit, then smile sweetly and steer the conversation elsewhere if it's getting stale.

Coffeeplease · 21/05/2008 15:04

YANBU
She sounds like a foolish woman IMO.

eenybeeny · 21/05/2008 15:08

YABU

She is in love with her child and children and the concept of them. It makes her heart happy. I am ttc DC2 after 4 years of ttc DS and although I dont talk about it all the time I DO talk about it to my friends sometimes. Its part of my life. That is what friends are for.

LavendersBlueDillyDilly · 21/05/2008 15:09

I can actually see that some one who isn't preganant talking constanty and excitedly about their 'baby' might be rather annoying.

It can be annoying enough if they are actaully pregnant, but it seems quite foolish if you are only intending to ttc.

It would get on my nerves I suspect. I might mention it mu DH, not to anyone else as she is a friend (even friends can be annoying at various times).

And I have friends who are overweight. I know it, they know it, if someone is your friend do you have to pretend they are not overweight, if it's a serious issue? Again not to them, or others that you know, but to think it, say it to DH and on MN where it;s anonymous why pretend that's not the case?

I thnk you are all very hard on the OP.

lollipopmother · 21/05/2008 15:11

YANBU if it really is the only thing she talks about, that's boring whether it's babies or cheese she's talking about. She just sounds excited at the moment though. Mind you, after ttc for 4 years I'm a bit surprised that she is thinking so far in advance, it just makes me feel sad that she might be really disappointed for quite some time to come.

calsworld · 21/05/2008 15:21

Sorry, I think YABU to have started this thread about someone who clearly needs your support.

It would have been a lot kinder of you to start a thread to ask how best to support your friend, rather than one that criticises her.

potoftea · 21/05/2008 15:35

YANBU. She's talking about a baby that as yet doesn't exist, as if it was already a certainty. I don't know how the hell you are supposed to answer her, it's like someone talking about how they'll spend their lottery win when they've just bought a ticket.

Hopefully she will conceive soon, but telling her employer and planning her dd's activities around a baby that may or may not be here this time next year is bizarre.

I don't think there is anything wrong in saying someone is hugely overweight in the context of explaining that she's not an ideal candidate for easily conceiving. It's a fact not an insult.

WorzselMummage · 21/05/2008 15:38

True friends support each other though don't they and the op would have been a much better friend by talking to the person in question rather then bitching about her on he internet.I'm glad the op isnt a friend of mine. We've been ttc for ages and i do talk to my friends about it all the time, no doubt its a bit boring sometimes but tough shit. Real friends listen and nod and occasionally gently give their oppinion they do not go and make nasty posts about each other on the internet.. thats not my idea of friendship atall.

pleasechange · 21/05/2008 15:55

YAB a bit unreasonable. I can see that it's a bit annoying when someone is constantly going on about the same thing, but I think everyone has a tendency to do this, particularly with people we're comfortable with. Without knowing it, there are probably topics which you tend to go on about (I know I do!)

BEAUTlFUL · 21/05/2008 15:58

I think there's more going on if the friend is actually going to the trouble of restructuring her family life for a baby that hasn't even been conceived yet. My friends and I spoke of babies in v hushed tones when we were newly preggers, and didn't dare buy anything till we were almost 40 weeks!

Maybe she got a real feeling of importance/attention when she was pregnant before and is trying to regain those all now.

Dunno. I do think it's a bit odd, though.

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