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To think we CAN live on the mortgage

743 replies

JaneEyre40 · 28/05/2025 09:34

Advice please -

Couple - Earn £10,500 a month
Mortgage - 3,700 a month
Nursery - 1,000 a month

Considering all other possible outgoings, do you think we can afford this and not feel pressured each month. What am I not considering? We've done the spreadsheet but I'm still unsure.

We will have about £65,000 in savings at the beginning of this venture.

Thanks in advance. House of a lifetime.

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JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 14:26

lifeonmars100 · 29/05/2025 13:59

Hooray for you and how lucky you were to have a council who fully took on board your complaints. I live in an area where the council is technically bankrupt hence the filthy streets and high council tax. There is no money for street cleaning, they are closing libraries and community centres. There have been pay cuts and redunancies in all council departments and yet we still have one the highest levels of council tax in the country. I have given up reporting fly tips and our streets get cleaned twice a year. It is grim

As for my job, I am retired now but when I did work I was proud of what I did but as a single mum who got no child support and who had no family help I had to make very many compromises about my working life. Some of my work has been very fulfiing and I like to think I have made a postive diffrence in a few people's lives. I am not well off and I see accounts of some astronomical salaries and incredible life styles on here so I respond with my life experience

Croydon? I worked there for many years and a friend is a social worker there currently. I agree, I didn't think they would give a shit about my complaint (Lambeth).

That must have been bloody hard. Having just had a child, I constantly think about how hard it must be for single parents, it's hard enough whilst having a partner. You are responding with your life experiences which I appreciate but Judy because I earn a certain salary (right now) doesn't mean I don't have some life experiences of my own.

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JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 14:26

Willyoujustbequiet · 29/05/2025 10:22

I never posted that you should be more thankful.

But lighthearted banter that is used throughout the site is absolutely acceptable. It may be irrelevant to you but its a public forum and you don't get to control opinions.

Personally I'd prefer it to straight shooting comments about being tone deaf/ridiculous/whatever.

Agreed

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JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 14:28

LemonOwl · 29/05/2025 13:27

@Anoncomment

I'm not triggered one bit. I only commented because I thought it was funny OP mentioned what they ate everyday.

I'm not sure why I added that to be honest, I guess to give a view of outgoings (not too much on food/wine on the other hand.....)

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JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 14:30

LemondrizzleShark · 29/05/2025 12:27

I’ve also just spotted that you said you can overpay up to £10K every month, so £120k per year - I would double-check that too, as it is usually 10% of the outstanding balance of the mortgage per year, and it doesn’t sound from your figures like you have a £1.2m mortgage (the house value may be that much, the mortgage sounds like it is around £800k, so able to repay £6600 every month in the first year, and reducing amounts each year after that).

You are exactly right. My OH corrected me, we can over pay up to 80k a year (not bloody likely but good to know the option is there).

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LemondrizzleShark · 29/05/2025 15:33

Agapornis · 29/05/2025 13:20

OP, use Excel and do your own sums. If I got the mortgage value right, you'll be allowed to pay off 120k in the first year, but not the following years.

I think the total mortgage is £3700 × 12 months × 30 years = £1,332,000. So 10% of the remaining balance means OP can pay off:
Year 1: £133,200
Y2 £119,880
Y3 £107,892
Y4 £97,102.80
Y5 £87,392.52

Leaving £786,532.68 (or +£13,200 = £799,732.68 if they only paid £120k in Y1) at the end of the 5 year fix, when normally they can pay off as much as they like.

You aren’t including interest payments in that calculation…

Bushmillsbabe · 29/05/2025 16:04

Sorry, haven't read whole thread, but with those figures I'm assuming house is in region of 1.1-1.2 million?
I would double check the council tax, ours is about 350 a month on a property worth around 750k.

I'm also interested in what public sector role brings in 5k net? That must be significantly over 100k.
Many public sector roles aren't as safe as they used to be anymore, there are significant cuts coming to counterbalance public sector payrises without any actual additional spending.
Do you have life insurance, income protection etc? As I think you would struggle to cover those costs on 1 salary.

Also, opinions may change on schooling once actually in state system, huge cuts are creating significant issues, as a school governor at my daughters school (state primary) I'm shocked to see the deterioration even within the last 12 months. I was very firmly in state camp, but the state system is really struggling for multiple reasons, through no fault of the teachers. Im going full time and potentially moving into private sector from nhs in preparation for potentially paying private fees if either child fails 11+, and the savings for our extension are now in high interest amount for this.

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 29/05/2025 17:22

JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 10:16

That's the thing, we are but we are going to over pay ASAP...I know, should we just lower the term...🥴

When the mortgage is so large, I like the safety blanket of the longer term bringing monthly payments down in case someone loses a job. Do make sure you set the overpayments up as a dd though x

Phoenixfire1988 · 29/05/2025 18:42

One or both are going to need a 2nd job i just cannot see how you will manage ! Looks like sacrifices will need to be made drop the avocado toast , daily Starbucks and I'm afraid those louboutin shoes and matching clutch will have to wait then you may just scrape by 🙄

JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 18:47

Phoenixfire1988 · 29/05/2025 18:42

One or both are going to need a 2nd job i just cannot see how you will manage ! Looks like sacrifices will need to be made drop the avocado toast , daily Starbucks and I'm afraid those louboutin shoes and matching clutch will have to wait then you may just scrape by 🙄

Sheep

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andthat · 29/05/2025 19:22

JaneEyre40 · 29/05/2025 10:24

But I don't need to be sensitive on a matter that is literally about me.

@JaneEyre40 I like you more, the more you post.

PineConeOrDogPoo · 29/05/2025 19:41

JaneEyre40 · 28/05/2025 22:17

Thank you, we're going 5 year fixed. Difficult to predict that far down the line, rates dropping now but for how long?

A quick look at historic rates (prior to the low since 2008 crash):

If the rate goes up here is roughly what you would be repaying on 30 year for 700k:

5% : 3757
6% : 4196
7% : 4657
8% : 5136
9% : 5632
10% : 6143

These scenarios are possible (!) although they may not seem it due to recent history - so it's worth thinking about it
Also how you would manage on one wage in case of redundancy.
30 years is a very long term.
And, get married!

https://www.economicshelp.org/blog/1485/interest-rates/historical-real-interest-rate/

PineConeOrDogPoo · 29/05/2025 19:48

Try to reduce the term if possible - it reduces the overall cost of the loan in interest and it also means you'll start paying back the principal sooner.

ThisIcyHare · 29/05/2025 21:44

Ghosttofu99 · 28/05/2025 22:17

I do think you and some other well paid people on here should remember that poorly paid people often do extremely stressful, hard jobs that often are skilled but aren’t valued like social care and child care.

Its great for you that you can afford your dream home but some extra self awareness would have made you think twice about rubbing peoples noses in it during a cost of living crisis.

I’m so tired of these types of responses. I don’t set the wages, I do my job, earn my money, pay my taxes and I’m the bad guy because others don’t earn as much? One person who is better off shouldn’t have the ‘read the room’ for the sake of other people’s self-perceived failings because they earn less.

There are so many people out there who do incredible work and should get paid better for it, but one shouldn’t have to constantly be afraid of how these STRANGERS feel for one simply existing in their own space.

Comments like ‘get in the real world’ are so pathetic, as this is the real world, there are haves and have nots, it’s always been that way, and it always will be.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 29/05/2025 22:29

Are you sure you want 5yr fixed when the rates are coming down?

I fixed for 5 years when I bought in a peak, then came the crash, ended up in negative equity so couldn't sell when I had to relocate for work. Anyway, I digress. Depending on mortgage fees (if there are any), if no fees, I'd probably only fix for 2 yrs. Or if there are fees then leave it at 5yrs but overpay as much as you can.

Jffs · 29/05/2025 22:39

I’d feel a bit uncomfortable if half our income was mortgage and nursery fees. If it’s a big house too they’ll be bigger bills. But then I'm
super cautious! Still in my tiny single mum
mid-terrace house, a decade on now with joint income of £7k and a mortgage of £300. But it has seen us nicely through Covid redundancy and when the heating bill tripled from £30 a month, well…it was all affordable.

BreezyOpalOtter · 30/05/2025 07:56

are you new to earning this amount of money? My household income is similar we bring in in £10,750 net a month. Our mortgage is £991 and to be fair I wouldn’t want to go above that. Depends on your other outgoings too and commitments. Are you still able to save and continue living the lifestyle you want? You’re in a fortunate position, and it’s easy when you have this money for lifestyle creep to start. We only started earning this amount of money from Jan, so it’s new to me and my husband. I also know it’s not guaranteed forever so I’d rather keep my costs low pay off the mortgage quicker and be prepared for if my husband ever lost his job. We’re in our 30’s, no kids (yet).

WhereIsMyJumper · 30/05/2025 08:09

Yes you can afford it. Get some good insurance in place if you haven’t already - critical illness, income protection etc

You have 6 months of earnings in savings so that’s good.

MidnightPatrol · 30/05/2025 09:06

BreezyOpalOtter · 30/05/2025 07:56

are you new to earning this amount of money? My household income is similar we bring in in £10,750 net a month. Our mortgage is £991 and to be fair I wouldn’t want to go above that. Depends on your other outgoings too and commitments. Are you still able to save and continue living the lifestyle you want? You’re in a fortunate position, and it’s easy when you have this money for lifestyle creep to start. We only started earning this amount of money from Jan, so it’s new to me and my husband. I also know it’s not guaranteed forever so I’d rather keep my costs low pay off the mortgage quicker and be prepared for if my husband ever lost his job. We’re in our 30’s, no kids (yet).

Edited

A mortgage that is >10% of your monthly income is v low, and the OP is in London where that level of mortgage wouldn’t stretch to a studio flat unfortunately.

JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:31

ReadingSoManyThreads · 29/05/2025 22:29

Are you sure you want 5yr fixed when the rates are coming down?

I fixed for 5 years when I bought in a peak, then came the crash, ended up in negative equity so couldn't sell when I had to relocate for work. Anyway, I digress. Depending on mortgage fees (if there are any), if no fees, I'd probably only fix for 2 yrs. Or if there are fees then leave it at 5yrs but overpay as much as you can.

We had this exact conversation....it's too uncertain. Yes rates are dropping but it won't be a continuous trend for the next 5 years....how can it?

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JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:32

BreezyOpalOtter · 30/05/2025 07:56

are you new to earning this amount of money? My household income is similar we bring in in £10,750 net a month. Our mortgage is £991 and to be fair I wouldn’t want to go above that. Depends on your other outgoings too and commitments. Are you still able to save and continue living the lifestyle you want? You’re in a fortunate position, and it’s easy when you have this money for lifestyle creep to start. We only started earning this amount of money from Jan, so it’s new to me and my husband. I also know it’s not guaranteed forever so I’d rather keep my costs low pay off the mortgage quicker and be prepared for if my husband ever lost his job. We’re in our 30’s, no kids (yet).

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HOW is your mortgage so low? Large deposit? Well done in any case.

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MellowPinkDeer · 30/05/2025 14:02

JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:32

HOW is your mortgage so low? Large deposit? Well done in any case.

They must live in a cheap area?

WhereIsMyJumper · 30/05/2025 14:03

MellowPinkDeer · 30/05/2025 14:02

They must live in a cheap area?

This.
I live alone, I earn £5k per month after tax. My mortgage is £551. Threes bed smallish semi in an ok area in a cheapish town

BreezyOpalOtter · 30/05/2025 14:03

JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:32

HOW is your mortgage so low? Large deposit? Well done in any case.

Nah cheap(ish) house & area, we paid £268k with a £34k deposit, fixed in at 2.4% three years ago. We live up north so it’s not overly expensive. When we bought our house our joint monthly income was £3,650 so it was the house we could afford at the time.

MellowPinkDeer · 30/05/2025 14:06

BreezyOpalOtter · 30/05/2025 14:03

Nah cheap(ish) house & area, we paid £268k with a £34k deposit, fixed in at 2.4% three years ago. We live up north so it’s not overly expensive. When we bought our house our joint monthly income was £3,650 so it was the house we could afford at the time.

A house for 268k I really need to move !!

Jffs · 30/05/2025 14:10

Mumsnetters always give a roasting. It is not a safe space in that sense 😂Some helpful replies though so worth asking.