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Accused DH of being on tinder

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Raynaodld · 27/05/2025 23:30

Long story short DH left me and 2 toddlers just randomly after we’ve been good. I had a sneaking suspicion. I’ve been struggling all week and as I’m a SAHM and rely on him I felt I deserved answers. Made a fake acc on tinder and seen a black screen with his initials (new profile) in our region. He was leaving hope that we would work on ourselves and get back together and was trying to have sex but I didn’t want it. Saying I was the only girl for him blah blah blah we just don’t work now. Anyways I sent him it and he called me crazy, said I treat him horrible everyday and his done with me and said this time we’re really done blah blah. I asked him to show me his screen time and you can’t delete your apps. He said he couldn’t because he was watching pornhub but swore on our kids lives he wasn’t on Tinder. I don’t believe him. Will be divorcing him anyways just for leaving me with the kids and dumping everything on me a month after us moving knowing I’m dealing with stuff myself. But I feel like him overreacting, calling me crazy and his secrecy only spells out one thing. Am I actually crazy?

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Hillrunning · 27/05/2025 23:33

He has left you, don't waste your energy looking for more reasons. It is done.

Raynaodld · 27/05/2025 23:41

Hillrunning · 27/05/2025 23:33

He has left you, don't waste your energy looking for more reasons. It is done.

It’s been a week and I’m still going through the grieving process but you are right. If anything it’s a relief either way because I think his lying. Or there’s definitely someone else involved. I can move on guilt free without him saying it was me.

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OPTIMUMMY · 27/05/2025 23:55

It’s clearly not you, don’t let him get inside your head making you doubt yourself.
You aren’t crazy, he isn’t even feeling guilty for what he’s done so definitely not a catch.

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