Hi, this is a long story but I’ll try and make it short.
How do you let go of someone you’ve wanted for years? I’ve know this man for forty years now. Since we split up in the mid eighties I got married and divorced for a second time. We met up again. He was in a relationship, that broke up after a few years, we were both free but he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship even though he’d got feelings for me. Time went on and nothing happened so I met someone else. He was upset about this and felt I had betrayed him. I told him that it was him who had rejected me but he said I had pushed him away.
So we remained friends, though it did sometimes go further than that once my relationship broke up. And then he met someone else, giving the reason that I had pushed him away for someone else. I was very upset and told him he was being hyprocritcal. This was ten years ago. We have stayed friends and meet up for a meal now and again. He is still with this woman. He tells me he has got feelings for me but is wary of breaking up with her in case it doesn’t work out with me. He hints all the time about it going further with me and we never know what could happen. He goes on holidays with her and is currently on a cruise with her and a photo of them all dressed up on the ship has popped up on Facebook with gushing comments from people and her saying that they are now looking for another cruise.
I am independent and can hold my own but I am nearly sixty four and have had enough of these games. I am not asking him to marry me or even live with me, just being treated as his partner would suffice. He doesn’t live with this woman by the way, he’s never lived with anyone.
How can I either keep him as friend and think no more of it or let it all go completely. I’m not acting like a love sick teenager by the way, these are genuine feelings.