Lucky boy podcast issues raised could still happen today

[CrochetQueeen]

I've just listened to the 'lucky boy' podcast and wonder AIBU but it really shook me because I think it could definitely happen today. A teacher at Christ's College, Finchley sexually abused a 14 year old child in the late 80s and they did nothing with the allegations, the teacher went on to have a long career but constantly moving schools before being removed from the profession in their 60s. More shocking is that the school and teachers are still closing ranks and refusing to even give statements. At the time the voice of the child and their parent, groomed because not very vocal/popular or with much clout was ignored and I'm pretty sure it could happen today. Imagine a kid that's a bit of a loner with some family problems and a teacher who is friends with the head and a school with a good reputation, would they risk dealing with it or risk kicking the can down the road for 30 years?

I have also listened to this podcast and found it disturbing. “Lucky boy” was not the only one she was abusing. Many of the other teachers knew what was going on but didn’t want to get involved. Apparently the teacher even took “lucky boy” to the staff end of term drinks as her “date”.

This was a very interesting podcast and raised lots of issues for me. Not least that I knew of at least two people that this happened to at my school. Male teachers in these cases but it did make me think that it must have been rife. This was in the 80's. Locally I know of one male teacher who has been imprisoned for abusing girls in school so I suppose it still happens but hopefully it's seen as abuse and dealt with accordingly, unlike it was then.

Of course it can still happen (and does!). There were two male teachers at my school who had inappropriate relationships with three female students. And one female teacher with a male student. This was all between 1998-2003, so well past the 80s.

Ok, so it's still happening and it sounds like people see it as a fact of life? Horrible. I'd have thought at least other teachers would be up in arms at paedophiles operating under cover of their profession. Or if it's school kids and teachers do people not see it as abuse? It certainly makes me see my kids schools in a different light

My friend slept with one of our teachers in the mid-nineties. Definitely happened. She never saw anything wrong in it but that's the grooming I suppose. I had a similar relationship myself at that age but the man wasn't a teacher or anything. I didn't really realize what had happened to me until I was probably late 30s 40s. I always thought it was fine and all my own choice etc.

At 14? I think that's why people haven't spoken up about this particular person, they think he was 'lucky' hence the title of the podcast but I don't think any 14 is lucky by being sexually persued by an adult or even made to feel like they are the one persuing. I guess it answers my question really why people aren't appalled by the story but I don't think it's right anyway and if my kids went to that school would have a serious issue with it

I left high school in 1978. There was a French teacher who came to all the parties and had relationships with loads of girls. (Not me).

I knew two girls/women who married men they began dating while they were student/teacher and one of my friends had a baby with a lab technician.

@EveryKneeShallBow ok but does that make it ok for people in their 20s to groom and start sexual relationships with 14 year olds because that kind of seems to be what you're saying? Even if say a 27 year old person fell in love with a 14 year old (just taking a pause here) isn't it reasonable that they would at least wait until they were legally able to consent which is 18 now if the adult is in a position of responsibility.

Absolutely @CrochetQueeen i agree, I was just illustrating what a different world it was. Didn’t make it right.