Friend has blocked me - I’m hurt and confused

[LadySparksWitch]

Someone who I saw as a good friend has recently blocked me on all forms of communication.

They’ve recently met someone who is a drinker and drug taker. Previously my friend didn’t even really drink.

Now they’re drinking everyday, even when alone at home, they told me they are addicted to drinking and use it as a way to get through the day.
They've also been taking cocaine (something I wouldn’t have associated them with at all) and giving lots of money to their new partner.

Quite a few times I called them out on it, and also said I wanted to help. That they needed help with their addiction. They also have mental health issues and decided to throw all their medication in the bin. Said they don’t need it anymore as they have alcohol instead.

I’m very worried. This person has a history of self harm.

I’m also hurt as at one point we both really trusted each other. And supported one another in out daily lives.

Given she's a vulnerable adult (with mental health difficulties), and potentially is being pressured by the partner into drinking, I'd ring Adult Protection services for your local area. They can do a wellness check and refer on to local services if needed. Current Safeguarding Teams contacts - All nations.pdf

Is your friend vulnerable? They are clearly in a relationship where the new person has taken control/influence very fast. Is their MH anxiety/depression or for bipolar/personality disorder? If you feel they are at risk and worried about them, obviously going on drink and drugs and throwing away their meds is serious, you should call the police to do a welfare check. Your friend is acting out of character and fallen under the grip of someone who has taken control of them to get them hooked on cocaine. As someone who has MH they are even more vulnerable and the medication was helping them be stable. I had a family member who took herself off medication when she "felt better" and went quite violent in her temper, but her husband got her help and she stopped having any alcohol. I don't think you can do much besides either reach out to their family of you know them or call the police for a welfare check. You seemed reliamt on this friend for moral support and maybe it had become too co-dependent and you need other friends/support.

You're blocked because they are in a controlling abusive relationship. It's not about you at all.

I’m not sure why you’re hurt and confused, OP. They’re clearly very enmeshed with their new partner, have stopped taking their medication, and are drinking heavily/taking drugs. You’ve pointed out several times that this is not ideal. Obviously this isn’t a popular move.

I wouldn't be hurt and upset but I would be worried. It sounds like your friend is heading for a big fall. Does she have family you can talk to?

She sounds like me 6 years ago when I had a mental breakdown and blocked all my pals who cared about me 😭