To think its weird of my boyfriend to have a picture of my friend in his phone?

[Kathrinebubble]

Luckly we not talking about nude or scandalous pictures. But a simple one he took of her while we all where hanging out with my group. I think it would have been different if this was a picture with the whole group in it instead of only my friend in it. He said that since we ordered a torn of drink my friend just ended up being in the photo he took of the drinks. The same photo that he uploaded on snapchat story when he barely even posts me on his snapstory. And u could barely see the torn of drinks in it since my friend was the one shining in the picture. And shes pretty as hell to. But he even went his way to save this photo into his album wich then i asked why he has a pic of her?

In isolation this doesn't seem an issue. But what is your intuition telling you? Are there other things that has given you cause for concern?

@abanemare my friend is a very pretty attractive girl who gets LOTS of attention from men and my other guy friends wich i don’t mind but i didn’t want my bf to become like them with her. I did ask him why he had that pic of her. Especially since she was at the spotlight and not the torn of drinks. He pointed out. Didn’t understand why she need to be on his snap story either. Because he didn’t save the picture he took of me but saved the one with my friend in it.. When he barely posts me on it. He did post me on his story after i asked him lol, but it did felt more like a pressure than because he wanted.

@Everanewbie idk i wanna be wrong but its kinda telling me that he is lying about not being a little bit attracted to her. He is kinda a little bit to friendly with her before when i told him it was making me uncomfortable.. especially when they where talking and didn’t inlcude me in their conversation

I'm old and I don't think it's OK. People post what they want others to know about them, and he wants people to know he was out drinking with her.

What you do about it is entirely up to you, you can't forbid him from liking her, but it's not nothing.

They are shagging.

Just joking, grow up.

@Dontlletmedownbruce he knows her trough me and the rest of my group. He usally talks to my guy friends, i would not see them as friends more acquantance since he only see her trough me but talk to my other guy friends trough socials, but he dosn’t have pictures of of my other guy friends. Like they talk a bit but i would not consider them being friends. Same with his friends are litteraly his since he only meet up with them without me

@Squarepuffin yea thats what rubbed me off when he posted her, with the tought of his people seeing hes out with my pretty friend when i also was there and my other people, i posted out with a pic with all of us there, since i wanted people to see i was with them.

I’m confused about the whole saving the photos thing, as when you take a photo on your phone it automatically saves to the gallery?

But anyway, this shouldn’t be a problem on its own. My boyfriend has loads of pics of his/our female friends on his phone. It doesn’t concern me one bit because I trust him and know he doesn’t fancy them. There’s nothing malicious about it. So the fact you’re worried just makes me wonder if there’s more to this, do you have any other reason to think he might be interested in her, or any other insecurities?

Why are (some) people being so condescending towards the OP, and even quite nasty?! 'You sound so young,' and 'grow up!' and 'he's saving her pics for wank fodder,' and 'unless you're 13 why do you care about a snapstory?' and 'are you sixth formers?' etc...

I am not 'young' and I would be pissed off with this; my DH taking - and saving photos of another woman, and keeping them on his phone. Pretending he is just taking pics in the pub but conveniently getting her on them.

Someone said 'would it bother you if she wasn't pretty?' but the boyfriend wouldn't be arsed with her if she wasn't 🙄 As a pp said, he wants to be associated with her because loads of men fancy her. (Coz she's very attractive.)

@Kathrinebubble YANBU, this is not acceptable, and your boyfriend is being an arsehole. Sadly, he probably won't change, so it's up to you to decide if you can put up with a man who lusts after and leers over other women he fancies, and doesn't give a shit about your feelings.

Personally, I know what I would do in your situation. Dump his ass. You're worth more than this.

@Zov thank u for your answer🫶
He could just take the picture in the middle but decided to post her in it aswell, it would have been different with a pic of all of us, but like u also say that one other poster says that it kinda give the feeling that he wanted people to see that he is out drinking with her, while i was just sitting next to him.. i did talk to him that it didn’t make me feel good as his girlfriend that he posts and saves a picture with another woman even if its my friend, in it while he didn’t even save the one i was in.. he told me that he will promise that he won’t take pictures of her wich i HOPE he dosn’t i told him that group pictures are okay. I just don’t see the point of my friend being in his picture if it isn’t a group picture and only her in it.

It’s not a typo. She means torn

Surely he just took a photo of the drinks and your friend was in the background?

OP has written "torn of drinks" three times now, so definitely not a "typo".

OP please tell us what a "torn of drinks" is.

Thank you.

@SilenceLover idk since she was looking in the camera smiling, it wasn’t as she was looking away or anything or he just tok one fast. I did ask him right away without my friend hearing that why he didn’t post me but my friend on his story. I looked fab aswell so im the one who deserve to be put in his story to be showed off not my friend🤣

Let's be honest - you dont trust this guy AT ALL anymore. Do you really want to stay with him?

Yes, I want to know what torn is too. I do suspect she means ton...I also dislike the way others are patronising her for her poor spelling.

I put a pic of it here or what it kinda look likes idk if it went trough but quoted in this comment

I don't think people are patronising the OP for her spelling. It's her overall use of language like lil and wanna, that's why people are asking if she's young, because it does sound like a teenager writing.

@DavidsFavouriteGirl and @Squarepuffin OP literally put a picture of what a torn of drinks is in her 2nd message. No, I've never heard of it either, but she has explained, just read all her posts.

Obviously he fancies her and feels her pic will raise his status. Unless you're happy to be the consolation prize dump him. Or upload loads of pics of fit guys and see how he likes it!

I saw your response, but I don't understand, I am very curious to know if it's some modern language I haven't come across. I've tried Google and it doesn't know either.

I might say "a ton of drinks" to mean a table laden with excessive amounts of alcohol, but I've never heard torn in that context.

I’ve seen drinks presented like that but didn’t know it was called a ‘torn’. I googled it but couldn’t find anything. I thought it was called a drinks tree or drinks tower.

Asking MN once again for a bollox I disagree reaction button for all the pointlessly nasty replies.

Also a RTFT for people who ask a repeated question that has been answered, wouldn't go amiss .

Rant over, As you were.

What is a "RTFT"?

If you think OP has answered the question "What is a "torn of drinks?" please tell us what you think the answer is. Then we can stop asking.

Thank you.

This. I would be disgusted if I were you or your friend.