Separate Beds?

[PlainJaneBrain]

Do separate beds work in a long term relationship? We've had our ups and downs but he's in his 50's and seems to have lost interest in sex and intimacy, I miss it but we sleep with our backs to each other often harrumphing at each others habits. Am I being unreasonable to suggest it's time for separate beds?

depends. Separate beds can be a life saver for some as you get a good night sleep. But will it force you even further apart? Sounds like more needs to be done for your relationship than where you’re sleeping.

Sounds like a relationship issue, not a beds issue?

DH and I often sleep in separate rooms because he snores and I’m a light sleeper. But we are a happy, close couple so it has no negative impact.

Have you tried the Scandinavian approach of having 2 separate single duvets on a double bed? It’s amazing, no wrestling over the duvet in the night, much less effect from the other person’s tossing & turning.