Family watching gym class

[FlowersandElephants]

I am fully willing to accept that IABU here.

I am a regular at the gym, Sunday mornings I do 2 classes. The first one is circuit training, there are usually 8-10 people.
For the last few weeks a new woman has been coming. The problem is, her husband/partner either stands at the door (holding it open) with their 2 kids (2 and 3 years old I would guess) or comes in and sits on the windowsill where we all put our stuff.

It just makes me uncomfortable but I don’t even know why! I don’t think a gym class is a place for children, for me, the gym is adult time.

The husband watching is weird. Why can't he take the kids for a walk to the park?

Kids alone sitting nicely with an ipad would be fine. Mine had to do it when they were younger.

It isn’t the children that would bother me. Why would a grown man be allowed to sit and watch people (let’s assume mostly wonen) in work out clothes doing exercise. Sounds pervy to me. I would def complain

I think it depends on the time and place.

Gym class is definitely not on for an grown adult to sit & watch. It's different for older DC who can sit and quietly entertain themselves
Every gym has an foyer often a little café. That's the appropriate place to sit and wait.

You are right, its odd and uncomfortable. Complain to the teacher

In my gym there is a turnstile at the reception which leads to the changing rooms, spa, pool, gym hall and studios and you can only operate it with a wristband which members have or spa/ day guests are given. Reception shouldn’t be letting this guy through the turnstiles.

We have a QR code on the app so I think he’s probably a member too, and the children could be for swimming. There is a cafe and a play area for children. I’m definitely going to mention it if he does it next Sunday!

They shouldn’t come in and watch - it’s weird and disruptive.

I wouldn’t assume that there’s an issue in their relationship. Maybe she can’t drive so gets a lift, maybe they go from the class straight to another weekly thing they do and there’s no time for her to go home in between, maybe he does a class after that she watches the kids during, maybe they stay with family Saturday night and go to the class on the way back as there’s no time to go home first.
None of that makes it reasonable for them to sit in the room though. I’m surprised it’s allowed.

They shouldn’t come in and watch - it’s weird and disruptive.

I wouldn’t assume that there’s an issue in their relationship. Maybe she can’t drive so gets a lift, maybe they go from the class straight to another weekly thing they do and there’s no time for her to go home in between, maybe he does a class after that she watches the kids during, maybe they stay with family Saturday night and go to the class on the way back as there’s no time to go home first.
None of that makes it reasonable for them to sit in the room though. I’m surprised it’s allowed.

They shouldn’t come in and watch - it’s weird and disruptive.

I wouldn’t assume that there’s an issue in their relationship. Maybe she can’t drive so gets a lift, maybe they go from the class straight to another weekly thing they do and there’s no time for her to go home in between, maybe he does a class after that she watches the kids during, maybe they stay with family Saturday night and go to the class on the way back as there’s no time to go home first.
None of that makes it reasonable for them to sit in the room though. I’m surprised it’s allowed.

They shouldn’t come in and watch - it’s weird and disruptive.

I wouldn’t assume that there’s an issue in their relationship. Maybe she can’t drive so gets a lift, maybe they go from the class straight to another weekly thing they do and there’s no time for her to go home in between, maybe he does a class after that she watches the kids during, maybe they stay with family Saturday night and go to the class on the way back as there’s no time to go home first.
None of that makes it reasonable for them to sit in the room though. I’m surprised it’s allowed.

They shouldn’t come in and watch - it’s weird and disruptive.

I wouldn’t assume that there’s an issue in their relationship. Maybe she can’t drive so gets a lift, maybe they go from the class straight to another weekly thing they do and there’s no time for her to go home in between, maybe he does a class after that she watches the kids during, maybe they stay with family Saturday night and go to the class on the way back as there’s no time to go home first.
None of that makes it reasonable for them to sit in the room though. I’m surprised it’s allowed.

The fact he's holding the door open would irritate me, let alone anything else 🤨
Lots of things irritated me when I did gym classes though. Now I just do my own thing 😂

I would tell him that the door should be closed. You don’t want to be watched.

Stop making excuses for dodgy men. You know perfectly well that there’s a very high chance of him being abusive or you’re in complete denial. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would complain to staff about it. They shouldn't be there watching the class. There are plenty of other things they could be doing while the mother is at the class.

The gym needs to sort this out, children and non participants shouldn’t be randomly in classes. They’re just essentially in the way.