Racist husband

[BePinkTurtle]

I don’t really know what I want here, just some space to tell things I wouldn’t be able to bring up anywhere else. My husband is known for his extreme views, and I find it very challenging. He thinks that he is a good person and it’s fine to say what he thinks because he thinks his views are harmless and he is entitled to them. We have constant fights about it. We were having dinner and wine just now (too much of wine) and taking, and I couldn’t get to the end of the sentence of what I was trying to say because he was talking over me. I ended up shouting and called me a nazi and faschist.
I feel like there is no way back from this. I have nowhere to go and have no family in this country.

He's a racist and you're a nazi?

Good grief. It doesn’t bother you in the slightest?

Wow.

Oh it happens

Thanks you all for your responses. I didn’t give a full picture, and I think I owe an explanation.
DH had made a comment at work about his colleagues and they found it be racist and got upset. We were talking about it and I said that he was wrong to say what he said. Earlier on we had a conversation where he said he wanted our teenage son to marry “someone local” - meaning British. Just for context - neither of us is “local”, we are both from different cultures, race and religions. I tried to tell him that it doesn’t matter where the person comes from, that it’s the values they hold is the most important. I tried to tell him about my recent experience of dealing with both amazing and awful people that I came across, and how little difference the country of origin holds. But he won’t let me finish my sentence and kept talking over me. I ended up shouting and he said it was fascistic of me to suppress his freedom of opinion. Apologies for any typos.

What did he say to his colleagues that they found racist?

Jeez, what a prat. Hope your teenage son marries whoever he wants to marry - or not at all. How about someone nice who treats him well?

I’d like to know too. I make all sorts of jokes some younger ones might consider racist because they’ve never experienced actual racism (They’re about my own race)

i don’t see anything wrong with wanting to marry a local English or whatever. It makes sense if you want your kids to not have the same difficulties as an immigrant

Arranged marriage perhaps?

It clearly sounds as if by local English he means white English. Could you clarify OP?

And he can have his preference who his children marry for whatever reason but he seems too fixated on it.

When Op tried to tell him that values and the person inside matter most he wasn’t having it.

That is a bad attitude and a sign of a racist mindset if it’s “local English” at all costs as opposed to just something he would prefer.

And no marrying a “local English” (assuming that means white English l) if that’s not your heritage will not necessarily protect you from issues immigrants have as a lot of that is based on race. So if you happen to share that race /religion you won’t escape the prejudice. Eg. My British Pakistani Muslim boss is married to a white English man but has still faced racism and Islamophobia

I think we need to be careful about asking posters to repeat racist remarks. It was enough that both his colleague and his own wife found it racist, and he already hinted he wants his child to marry a white person - maybe let’s leave it at that. She has painted a pretty clear picture already.

I’ve seen people repeat the most awful things on here to prove it was indeed racism to others who kept asking - and you still get posters denying it anyway.