AIBU for being worried about giving address to male work colleague?

[YorkshireLass9879]

Just that really.

I’m in a new job and have been enjoying a bit of flirty banter with a older male colleague. Both single on all fronts and absolutely nothing more than a bit of colleague banter on my side.

We were sat together exploring the local area on Google Maps and he was showing me the spots he used to frequent in his younger days. I live close to a popular tourist spot and pointed out my road being close to said spot. He clicked on the road to have a look via street view and I stupidly clicked on my exact house number instinctively to see how it looked on Google maps. He obviously realised what I’d done and began laughing and joking about how he knew where I lived now.

I feel so stupid but it was a genuine accident with no thought behind it.

Now I can’t stop thinking that he’s actually some sort of deranged stalker and I’ve given him the perfect opportunity.

Feel like I’m being very irrational but my mind does tend to go to the absolute worst case scenario and I am a panicker.

He definitely remembers which number and road as he brought it up again a few days later.

Am I overreacting by being worried about him knowing where I live?

Yes I think you are massively over thinking this. What relevance does him knowing where you live have?

Stop with the flirty banter!

Why do you only think he’s a deranged stalker after giving him your address? You obviously didn’t think he was deranged when you were spending your days flirting with him.

You’re being very irrational. If he is a stalker, he’d easily find your address without you telling him.

He probably hasn’t committed it to memory. Why would he suddenly morph into a deranged stalker simply because you looked up your house?

Forget about him knowing your address,I’d be more worried about your ability not to have an appropriate level of professional friendly behaviour with work colleagues rather than “flirty banter”

If he was a stalker he could have easily followed you home, or planted an air tag on your bag or car.
It sounds like you get on well, the chances of him secretly being an insane stalker are vanishingly small.

The flirty banter sounds embarrassing

You’ve started a new job and you’re flirting with colleagues. What is wrong with you? New starters keep your head down and your mouth shut.

Yes, it does sound like a huge overreaction.

But stop the 'flirty banter'.

It's your place of work, not a nightclub.

I’m sure he doesn’t care where you live, but stop with the flirting. You’re probably making your colleagues feel embarrassed.

This.
Don't mess where you eat.
It never ends well.

Yep! This...

You weren't panicking about him before with 'flirty banter' so why panic now?

YABVU, in engaging in flirty banter with an older colleague in a new job!

Just get on with your work.

Overreacting. If he wanted to murder you he wouldn’t necessarily need your address

as a newbie in your role I really would stop with the flirty banter and be more professional

I'm pretty sure that deranged stalkers don't need to reply on their victims giving them their address via Google Earth

He might be an opportunist stalker that you've given a come on to but that ship has sailed, not much you can do now but as everyone else has said, lay off the flirting