Should grandparent speak like this infront of a child?

[Namechangerydoo]

Long story short, child age 7 with grandparent yesterday until tomorrow, grandparent rarely bothers usually. Child cried to come home and grandparent has phone partner giving it “f this I am not having them again. Ruined my effing weekend. We’re coming home” infront of my child while they are crying in the background.

Obviously that's an awful way to speak in front of the child.

I would say that 7 is quite old for that behaviour. Especially if it was just one more night with them though, GPs probably felt them ungrateful that their effort wasn't enough to please them, rather than understanding that kids miss their parents sometimes.

As a tip, when my DD stayed at my mother's I'd send her with her tablet with a secure messaging app. Wire I think it was called, and she could only message me from there. If she woke in the night and couldn't sleep or if she just needed a bit of reassurance, she could contact me any time. It helped.

Would never be going again if it were me. The mama bear in me would not let it happen 🤣

It’s not passive aggressive, it’s aggressive

Surely a loving grandparent wouldn’t speak to them like this.

some grandparents are no longer capable of caring for young children, they might think they are but it was all too long ago. don't leave the child with them alone again

I don't think 7 is at all young to feel homesick when you're somewhere you don't know with people you don't know that well.

It's infant school age or at the most 1st year juniors - and schools generally only start to take children away for one night or so at this age - that's with people they know well and homesickness is still an issue for many children.

I’d end all contact. Some people think nothing of this sort of behaviour and language infront of a child. But I think it’s really damaging and should absolutely be avoided.
I would not want anyone swearing around my child or being so nasty about them infront of them. I’d drive there now and get them, never communicate to grandparents again - end of story.