Mum is taking over my son’s birthday

[keke2605]

I feel quite bad for writing this as my mum does help me a lot with my son.

But it is his 2nd birthday soon and we have planned just to have some tea and a small get together at her house, as my flat is quite small.

Today I was going to get his cake, balloons, candles etc. She said she’d got everything already, without mentioning it to me previously. She said she’s got everything in spider man. He doesn’t even really obsess over spider man.

AIBU to think she’s taking over? Would this bother you?

Then she should host in her own house!

Her mum is really doing a nice thing here, letting her daughter relax and enjoy the day with her son. This is a nice thing.

No, it’s not. It’s controlling. If her mum had offered (“I saw a nice Spider-Man cake in the supermarket. Would you like me to get it and pick up some matching balloons and decorations for you?” ) that would be nice, but to go ahead and take control like that is not nice!

Then the op should get on and organise it herself then, not use her mothers house instead of her own.

I don't see this as a problem, it's actually quite nice but some posters here just want to make a massive issue out of it when it really doesn't need to be.

So you'd rather be all upset and stew on it for years to come rather than think mum is doing a nice thing here.

If you want total control, do it yourself, host it yourself in your own home. Job done.

She thinks that she is helping. You need to tell her that you will plan future events. No need for drama.