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To submit a complaint in retaliation?

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toletitgoornot · 25/05/2025 08:57

I moved into a rental a few months ago with a courtyard garden. I filled it with pots and put up a bird feeder, next door neighbour A came round and demanded, aggressively and swearing, I take it down. I said no. He has repeatedly complained to my letting agent and landlord. He has convinced neighbour B to put in a complaint so my landlord has now said the feeder has to go.

Neighbour B also rents and has a dog. Their courtyard is constantly covered in shit and the smell of urine and dog shit in the recent hot weather has been vile. I'm moving out anyway in a few months and part of me says just let it all go, part of me wants to collect photos of their yard and submit a complaint to their landlord and environmental health when I go. What would you do?

YABU - rise above it and ignore them,
YANBU - two can play at that game, submit the complaint.

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RareGoalsVerge · 25/05/2025 09:10

What are your neighbour's specific objections? Do the things you have placed reduce your neighbour's view or light? Are the birds attracted to your feeder unusually noisy? If the things you have done do have a genuine negative impact on your neighbour then you should try to reduce that impact, within reason.

If your neighbour's actions/failure to act have a genuine negative effect on you then YANBU to complain.

BallerinaRadio · 25/05/2025 09:12

Why you not be putting a complaint in irregardless of the complaint against you?

MyCyanReader · 25/05/2025 09:14

Plant pots are fine but bird feeders in court yards bring lots of bird poop.

If the courtyard is full of dog poo then why haven't you complained already?

caramac04 · 25/05/2025 09:16

As a dog owner I cannot understand how people tolerate their dog’s stinky shit left around mouldering. Do they never go in the garden?
A visiting dog oeed by my back door yesterday. I rinsed it away with disinfectant. I’m not a clean freak.
I would report as I would suspect the dog is not particularly well cared for.

Confrontayshunme · 25/05/2025 09:16

You need to clarify about the garden I think. You say a courtyard garden which make me think that the building surrounds the garden. If the building is shared and garden is visible to everyone, the neighbour may have a point (or if it only attracts pigeons/seagulls/rats), but if it is just the small feeder at the back of your own house, you ANBU.

Since you are moving, just take down and put it up at your new place.

toletitgoornot · 25/05/2025 09:17

It's a bird feeder on a hook. They can't even see it unless they look out their upstairs window, they just don't like birds.

I haven't complained yet as I generally try not to cause ill feeling. I'm here temporarily and was just trying to make the best of things and not start conflict, I'm rebuilding after a really tough time so I don't have any interest in starting conflict but I don't want to be walked over either.

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toletitgoornot · 25/05/2025 09:20

Confrontayshunme · 25/05/2025 09:16

You need to clarify about the garden I think. You say a courtyard garden which make me think that the building surrounds the garden. If the building is shared and garden is visible to everyone, the neighbour may have a point (or if it only attracts pigeons/seagulls/rats), but if it is just the small feeder at the back of your own house, you ANBU.

Since you are moving, just take down and put it up at your new place.

I've taken it down. They are small gardens at the back of each house, but brick paved.

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