My DH and I have very different thresholds for acceptable behaviour. When we argue i am sometimes called all sorts of names F B, C, Piece of S** etc. I have also on occasion had things thrown towards me and been locked out of family home temporarily. It’s essentially huge temper tantrums. I try not to react but it’s so difficult- sometimes I feel angry and verbally bite back but without the name calling but most of the time I feel really intimidated.
I feel this is abusive and am left feeling really upset for days after. My DH feels it’s normal and that i am too sensitive. He also says I push him to it.
DH always apologises a couple days after and moves on as if it hasn’t happened. If I say anything about it he sulks for days and then wakes up one day and seems to have forgotten all about it. We now have a baby and I don’t want her to grow up seeing me treated like this. The tantrums have got worse since baby was born.
AIBU to feel that I shouldn’t be treated in this way? I am really questioning whether I need to get out of this marriage. I’m just scared of how difficult that process would be and how he would treat me if I broach subject of separation. He would be so difficult to live with.