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Asked neighbours visitor to not park so close to my driveway

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9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 12:18

I live in a cul de sac, and annoyingly, the majority of visitors choose to park outside my house. I was unaware of the extent of the issue until after I had moved in, but it is what it is. There are no alternative parking options available without blocking someone’s driveway, so everyone parks here instead. It’s every single day and a bit frustrating at times, but nothing I can do.

The majority of people are considerate and leave enough space for me to come and go, however, there are some, such as this woman, who park excessively close to the dropped kerb, preventing me from passing their car. I’m then forced to drive out in the opposite direction, turn around and come back.

This specific car comes by several times a week and parks so near that she might as well park directly across my drive. She visits the house a few doors down. Although I have never spoken to her, this morning I was outside when she pulled up. I asked if she could give me a little more space while parking here, explained my reasoning, and she merely rolled her eyes at me before walking away.

I want to clarify that I have no problem with her parking here (despite how annoying it may be), it’s a public road and anyone can park there. I know that. I just wish she would give me a bit more space to get in and out of my drive. There is genuinely no reason for her not to park a little further down the kerb, she just chooses not to.

I have included a (poorly drawn) diagram. The road is not as wide as depicted in the diagram and is, in fact, quite narrow, which is the reason I cannot swing around her car when leaving. I have maintained good relationships with my neighbours, and now I’m concerned that it may become uncomfortable due to the comment I made to their friend.

What motivates someone to intentionally create challenges for the neighbours of their friends or family? Was I unreasonable for asking this?

Asked neighbours visitor to not park so close to my driveway
OP posts:
SinnerBoy · 24/05/2025 13:48

If someone asked me to roll back a bit, because it was tight getting out of their driveway, I would, if there was space. Why wouldn't you?

Communitywebbing · 24/05/2025 13:49

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 12:55

I genuinely hate pettiness or tit for tat, which is why I initially asked nicely. I prefer to use my drive and leave the space for someone who needs it. However, considering that this woman and others don’t seem to care, perhaps I should adopt the same attitude and start parking in that space instead, leaving my drive empty. They will have to find alternative parking. After all, it’s fair game, right?

Um… these are not the words of someone who genuinely hates tit for tat!

Goditsmemargaret · 24/05/2025 13:54

Yanbu. Not at all.
Your request to her was basically "hi, could you make this small adaptation that won't really inconvenience you but make my life a lot easier"

And if her response had been "I'm sorry but that actually WILL cause me hassle because... " then I bet (assuming her justification was reasonable) you wouldn't be posting here now.

I can't believe she rolled her eyes and walked off.

What a cunt.
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I probably wouldn't sink to her level and parking outside but I wouldn't blame you if you did.

Keep us posted on what she does next visit.

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 13:54

@Communitywebbing well, what do you suggest? Am I wrong for adopting the same attitude as them? Why should I care and be considerate towards other people when it’s not reciprocated?

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whatcanthematterbe81 · 24/05/2025 13:56

We get this but it’s tough. If you were better at manoeuvring you could get out the right way. Not being mean, I’m the same. If the space is tiny i struggle

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 13:57

@Communitywebbing also, if I was petty then I would have just parked there without speaking to her first and asking nicely.

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9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 14:01

@whatcanthematterbe81 It’s really not a matter of my driving abilities. I have been driving for more than 15 years and consider myself a competent driver. There isn’t enough space to drive past her vehicle. While it is tough, the same could be argued if I were to park in that space and she needed to seek an alternative spot. It works both ways.

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Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 24/05/2025 14:01

Could you have a polite and friendly conversation with your neighbour and ask them to have a word with her? If you get them on side she may take it coming from them. If you explain it’s literally just her you don’t have a problem with anyone else’s parking.

Also, just because she reacted defensively doesn’t necessarily mean she won’t listen.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 24/05/2025 14:02

Ok apologies, I made a wrong assumption

ringoutsolsticebells · 24/05/2025 14:02

I would park where she parks for a while tbh. If she asks why I woul d ask her why she wants to know given that anyone can park there. There are lots of reasons why you may choose not to park on your own driveway

uuuuu · 24/05/2025 14:05

To refuse to give you a few more inches and roll her eyes (after having been asked politely, so you can get out of the driveway to turn the way you want to) is plain spiteful, difficult, cuntish and selfish- since it’s also habitual . The usual defence of “it’s legal” is everything that’s wrong with our society today. It’s not simply about legality, it’s about morals, ethics and common decency. It’s legal for someone to laugh at you if you tell them you have cancer. Does that make it an ok thing to do? If you see your friend’s 15yo daughter alone in the street crying late at night, it’s perfectly legal to drive on by and get on with your own life. We are fast becoming a nation of total cunts.

FatLarrysBanned · 24/05/2025 14:06

I had a similar situation after I had a dropped kerb put in. Neighbours parking right up to the edges on both sides meaning I couldn't easily see cars coming down the road (why does every bugger have a VW transporter/custom Transit now)?

I now park on the road leaving my driveway and dropped kerb empty. Yes, I am that petty, but there's a back story with neighbours being fuckwits around parking, so if you can't beat 'em...

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 14:11

@uuuuu I agree. I frequently see this in the parking discussions here, where people state, "well, it's legal, so tough luck." What a shitty attitude to have. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should…

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JTro · 24/05/2025 14:14

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 12:55

I genuinely hate pettiness or tit for tat, which is why I initially asked nicely. I prefer to use my drive and leave the space for someone who needs it. However, considering that this woman and others don’t seem to care, perhaps I should adopt the same attitude and start parking in that space instead, leaving my drive empty. They will have to find alternative parking. After all, it’s fair game, right?

Absolutely! I would do the same

Hickorydickorydog · 24/05/2025 14:16

Park in front of your house/ driveway. She’ll get the message

longapple · 24/05/2025 14:17

You could enquire with your council about getting double yellow lines over your drive, they usually extend past the edge of the dropped kerb.

TheMumEdit · 24/05/2025 14:20

I have the same issue and it’s always the same person. He visits my neighbours and could park on their drive, or across from it. He doesn’t as it makes it awkward for them! He actually picks up her elderly mum and makes her walk rather than parking close. If I’m planning on going out I now street park.

F1LandoFan · 24/05/2025 14:25

When asking her to move a bit, did you explain why? If you explained it to me I think I’d always make the effort to make it easier for you. If she doesn’t now you’ve said something, I’d stop parking on my drive and park on the road. It might not take any time to go left and turn around but it would annoy me, especially if you’ve explained it to her!

writingsonthewall · 24/05/2025 14:27

Not sure why some responses are necessarily mean, but no not unreasonable at all to politely ask. She wasn’t pleasant rolling her eyes but maybe she will do it anyway.

Otherwise yeah, you’ll have to carry on doing the opposite direction thing which is a bit annoying I think anyone can see.

9hashbrownsplease · 24/05/2025 14:32

@F1LandoFan yes I did explain and blamed it on the road being so narrow! But obviously that’s not something we can change and I thought she might have understood that, but no.

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KnewYearKnewMe · 24/05/2025 14:47

Fingers crossed she will be more considerate next time. Otherwise she’ll have to find a new place to park!

AmIthatSpringy · 24/05/2025 15:02

I get it

we get visitors for across the road parking opposite my driveway

not illegal but makes it really difficult for me to get into my drive

some People are just self centred

RandomMess · 24/05/2025 15:06

We have a similar issue that the road is so narrow. Because I am one of the few that usually parks on my drive the neighbours are seemingly oblivious to how difficult it makes it to get on and off my drive.

They then moan if I park on the street like them 😂

MyFavouriteDaughter · 24/05/2025 15:18

Why not drive straight onto your drive when you come home and reverse out? You are in a cul de sac not pulling out onto a main road, you are safe to reverse out. There is no need to extend your dropped kerb or park in the road or put lentil in the valve caps!

MyCyanReader · 24/05/2025 15:19

@9hashbrownsplease as you can still get out then YABU. It just means you have to turn the other way out your drive then turn round.

I would suggest street parking your car in that space, then you won't ever have any issues.

We used to do this at a house I rented in Oxford where parking was always a nightmare. It was easier to park on the street outside the house rather than our driveway as otherwise the other parked cars would make it SO tight to get out. I'd park with the rear of my car upto the driveway, so even if (when) someone parked tight infront of me, I could then reverse back and easily get out. A neighbour did complain once that we were taking up a parking space when we had a drive, so I just pointed out that I was sick of being blocked in.