Moody husband as he has been up helping me with baby

[An89]

DS has been waking constantly throughout the night, starting my first period since I was pregnant so I am extremely fatigued, moody, hormonal - akin to the past 6.5 months of sleep deprivation. DH has had to help during the nights as I cannot take it, I am at breaking point.
I have no other support other than his family who just like to play with DS and be there for the good parts (he didnt want to move near my family as it would mean changing jobs - something which was very difficult to accept). But now, DH is SUPER moody, mopey and tired and spends the day snapping at me. (Of course I have probably been like this for the past 6.5 months) but I feel SO annoyed, he has had to do this with me for all of a week? Surely he should be thinking wow, this is what she has been doing day in day out, I admire her. But no, instead he's just turned into this moody, eye rolling human being.

@An89 is husband working on top of this?

Well isn’t he a delight. Don’t have any more babies with him. He’s a big baby himself.

Also he should have changed jobs and allowed me to live near my support system if he couldn't provide support with a smile! His resolution to this was to move near my family, keep his current job and do an 85 mile commute, one way, daily. Just imagine what a moody human he would have been then.

The ‘helping me’ in your title rings alarm bells, he isn’t helping you, he should be being a parent like you are, sending you love at this time

What do you mean by 'help'? Did you mean actually participate in his child's care like a responsible parent?

So true, I don't know why it is perceived as 'Helping me." But this is how he makes me feel

Point it out to him.

My kids dad was like this, we ended up splitting up.

DH has had to help
DH has had to parent and is a moody shit because of it.

sounds much worse when written more accurately.

Same.
No empathy.
No concern for his wife and child.
No support for someone doing a really hard job that intrinsically involved sleep deprivation.
Do these men ever read up on.the sleepless-nigt thing before procreating?

No husband should make their wife feel bad for needing to step up and support them, in whatever manner of support that might be.

I get he's tired if he's working as well as picking up some nights, but suck it up buttercup!!

I remember my husband getting home from a 12 hour shift (police) with a 90 min commute. I was struggling with a bad stomach ache. It was 2am and he came upstairs, to the bathroom where I was holed up with my 4 month old son, took him and slept in the room with my son all night. My son still fed twice a night (I was actually in the bathroom bottle feeding him at the time).

Not a single complaint, just acknowledgment that his wife was struggling and took over with nothing but world of concern.

That's what you should get!

So what we did was when dh came in at 6 he would have his tea and watch a bit of tv. 7 pm I went to bed and he did babies bedtime and bed time bottle (expressed milk) he would also settle baby if needed. At 11pm he came to bed and I would get up at next wake up. This meant I usually got about 5 hours straight plus any sleep managed between wakings. I usually averaged around 7 hours total. Dh slept 11-7 so got his 8 hours . Weekends we each got a layin until 10am, we also shared all housework at weekend.

Ypu need to make long term changes so you feel better rather than you reaching breaking point

Pack a bag and go stay with your family.
He doesn't want to be involved.
For god sake don't have another child with this loser.
Go and stay with your family and regroup.

Sorry @An89 , I wasn't having a pop at you. It's the way that many men seem to think that a woman does all the child's upbringing that annoys me. If they change a nappy, they think they've performed miracles.

Don't blame your hormones, blame your useless husband.

** Not all men are useless, but far too many on here are.