DH is extremely immature and emotionally troubled. He seperates over the smallest of things even though he is the breadwinner and I don’t have a job as he asked me to be a SAHM. I’m in a horrible position. He left abruptly after an argument he caused. I was previously very depressed and even hospitalised last month. I have been going to the gym and exercising an hour a day when he comes home from work to keep my mental health at bay. I’ve started looking great and the gym is the only time I can unwind with 2 toddlers- 15 months and nearly 3. He has started arguments over me wearing shorts (most of the time knee length) and called me a disrespectful, modern female who doesn’t respect her man. The main argument was he doesn’t allow me to have days off on the weekend or ever watch the kids. He took off about a week ago leaving me with two toddlers. Oh- did I mention we just moved 2.5 hours away from family and were looking to buy a house. Now I’m back to square one trying to sort of my life (he has two successful businesses) and I understand how shared custody but knowing I have no one, I suffered with severe depression last month, no job and he won’t even come back an hour a day to help with them. Our ds had to go to the hospital two days ago. While there DH constantly tried going on my phone seeing what I had been searching and seen I was on a mom friend app. He made a remark about signing up to meet some hot single moms- while I was worried sick about our son! I just think his the biggest narc on the planet genuinely loving me suffering as punishment for my ‘disrespect.’ Even if you decide you don’t want to be together- it should be after counselling, or not just one tiny bicker and you leave your wife and kids. And even if that is the case, don’t men care enough to check that their family is doing fine? I struggle with both and I’m trying to sort out nursery, work, housing (as we was waiting on a house we’ve been staying in an Airbnb so I’m literally housing.) Yesterday I couldn’t even put out the bins and the house is a mess. I do pretty well doing the basics as I know this is non negotiable but man. One day I hope I come back and update this and say I have gotten it all sorted.