Mums 60- Only me doing anything

[Fatcrab]

Ugh I just need to vent. Mum has been ill for last 4 years and lost her partner...and is turning 60 in september. Brother has not been in employment for years and does nothing but game. She has very few friends if any and family not bothered because she is cantankerous and pushed everyone away. If i take her away i will have to pay for everything as she is on sickness.

My aunt asked me what I was planning for my mum, and it just made me realise that it all falls to me. I did a lil meal for her 50th and took her to canada for her 40th. Obvs I want to do something and I love her....but i just need to vent that its always me when no one else cares or picks up the bill.

Anyone else experience this?

This - did your mum gift you a nice trip at 18,21,25, 30 ???

I don't agree with others that she should organise her own birthday, especially as she's recently been widowed and it's her 60th. I would think a nice lunch out or afternoon tea somewhere would be more than fine. I'm in my 60's and widowed and I'd be delighted if someone did that for me. To be honest, company and good conversation is more important than material things.

You had enough money to take her to Canada for her 40th? Your mum? How young did she have you?

@TourangaLeila 18.

Lunch or afternoon tea somewhere nice. You are going to have to arrange it so might as well organise something you'll like too. You're a good daughter

Op, at 67 my favourite birthday celebration is a wee afternoon tea with my children and grandchildren with everyone bringing something for the table with them.

im sure your mum would be happy just you and her, a cuppa and cake. No one else needs to be invited.