Drinking and relationships

[Anony5300]

My bf is underage. Hes never had the desire to drink until his friends started pressuring him to. His friends always go overboard until they're mentally gone. Theyre saying he cant have a good time unless he’s drinking. His friends drink and drive and don’t hold each other accountable. It makes me anxious when he goes out with his friends because if he starts drinking I worry about his safety and if he’s making any threats to our relationship if he’s wasted. I want to feel safe when he’s out with his friends and not worry all night long. He always respected and understood this boundary and now he wishes I’d get over it for a temporary feeling. Am I being unreasonable if he’s values fitting in with his friends more than this boundary?

I mean this kindly. If ever there was an age to experiment with alcohol and drink too much it's 17.

Let him crack on. You don't have to see him on the nights he goes out drinking do you? Let him crack on and get it out of his system.

Better he does it at 17 than 27, or even worse 37.

Plus, it's a lot more fun than spending an evening with your partner sat on the sofa, watching tv with your face in your phone - i'd choose a night getting pissed over that scenario any time.

How old are you both?

Report them if they're drinking driving. If he keeps getting into a car with someone wasted he's going to be killed or they're going to kill someone.

How old are you? I'd guess around 16-18? If so you should be out enjoying your life, not worried about your BFs safety. You need to either let him get on with making, and hopefully learning from his mistakes. Or just end the relationship and go and enjoy your youth.