How would you deal with this?

[Becci76]

See screenshot.. c is my husband
M is a male work colleague and A is a female work colleague.

I can't make sense of that. Could you summerise the situation?

Sorry. Very long post and screenshot came up in reverse order. If you want to read then start with screenshot 4 and work backwards but understand its a long post... just needed to get it off my chest as driving me crazy. Can't really break it down as want people to see the whole picture

Nah cba to read that tiny writing

You need to write down what your AIBU is, we can’t be doing your work for you.

It’s not a long post, that’s the problem. It’s a very short post with a lot of photos in tiny fonts. Hard to read on the app. Can you try and summarise the problem so people can try to help you?

I's it ok for my husband to say I love you to a female work colleague on the phone? Married 24 years and always been something we say to each other....

I've really tried but I can't. So the person writing it is you is it?

I read it
The OPs husband flirts with his male colleague and tells him he loves him. Now the OPs husband has started doing the same with a female colleague.

The OP feels that her husband telling his colleagues he loves them belittles the sentiment as it relates to herself.

The OP expressed this to her husband who complained that 27 years ago, when they were beginning their relationship, she slept with her ex.

They've had an argument

No, obviously he shouldn’t be saying I love you to a work colleague.

Are these colleagues his friends? Some people (mostly women) say "I love you" to friends. Or is it an inside joke? Banter? He's calling his male colleague "sugar tits" after all.
Is he saying it in sincerity? Do you think he does it to wind you up?

I think the bigger problem you have is that the two of you communicate with silent treatment, arguments and swearing at each other. You both sound very angry with each other and that he hasn't forgiven you for you cheating 27 years ago.

Weird and crossing boundaries to say goodbye to a work colleague with love you. Very defensive response using what you did decades ago before you were official. Stonewalling and sulking is not good. You anbu. Have come to Jesus talk and stop apologizing for what you did before you even properly got together.

I think that’s what I came to as well but it was very difficult because the messages didn’t flow and I wasn’t going to read it all again in reverse order!
Does he say that kind of thing to other people too?

So he calls his male colleague 'sugar tits' and says 'I love you' to him as well? Right. To be honest the whole dynamic between your husband and his colleagues, and also between you and your husband, sounds unhealthy and weird. I'm astonished that you've been together 27 years because you all sound about 19.

I'm waiting for either the male or female colleague to post an aibu themselves about their colleague being sexualy inappropriate towards them. It's a HR nightmare

So your husband flirts with a male and female colleague,he also tells them he loves them🤷‍♀️is he bi.

I can't make head nor tail of your screenshots.
If the summary @ ButteryLightHouse
posted is correct then I would be very concerned about your H's behaviour with his work colleagues. If you are supposed to be in a monogamous marriage why is he openly flirting with other people and expressing love for them?
Totally disrespectful of you.
And what on earth is the dynamic at his work if this is considered normal behaviour for the employees?

You should be having a serious discussion with him about what exactly is going on between him and these people and you should be reminding him he is a married man and should be maintaining boundaries.

Some of these threads really make me wonder how any one ever gets any work done because the staff are so busy getting up close and personal with their colleagues.