Husband game chair

[Madremia2019]

I recently renovated the living room to make more spacious and comfortable. The living room wasn’t finished yet and partner got a very bulky game chair to put right in the corner ( one of those that look like a F1 car) the chair is one of those with pedals that has connection cables to a PlayStation. Partner is turning 50 this year. The chair has been there for 3 months and he barely touches. I told him to get rid of it or I get rid of him and the chair. I having been putting the chair out in the patio ( covered) , but every evening soon he comes back from work he gets the chair back on the living room. Is at point that he does just to aggravate me , what I can do to sort the situation ? We don’t have any room and nobody sits in the chair. As is shape like a car seat. I spend all my spare money renovating the living room and he didn’t help with anything. Should I put all his stuff out in the patio and tell him to find a place for him and the ugly chair ? I already told him to move out, gave him a time to get rid of it , but he says that he is going and never leaves. We have kids , so I am trying to not upset them. The only thing he owns is a tv, PlayStation and now the game chair. Can I throw all out or place the chair on Facebook for sale ?

I'm guessing the relationship is over regardless of the chair?

If so, I guess it comes down to whose name is on the deeds/lease as to whether you can make him leave or not.

He’s being a twat and deliberately trying to piss you off. You’ve told him to get out, so now give him a deadline. Is it your house?

I think you're a little OTT for giving this much of a shit about his chair, and would say let him have the damn chair, but I'm more concerned about the fact you have told him it's over and to leave... And he says he will, but never goes. That's the real problem here.

Unless he has any ownership of legal entitlement to the property? Whats the situation there?

The chair is nothing in this bigger picture. Maybe you're taking out other frustrations on the chair.

I hate stuff like that in the living area but you obviously have some other relationship issues if you'd ask him to leave over it. It sounds like it might be expensive so I don't think putting it outside is ideal. Is there nowhere else in the house it could go? Regardless there must be other issues you need to work on in the relationship

Stick the chair on marketplace and get rid when he's at work. Even better, offer him in the chair as an extra. He sounds 50, going on 12!

Do you have a spare room it could go in?

A 50 year old with a gaming chair is deeply unappealing

The only thing he owns is a tv, PlayStation and now the game chair.

How long as he been a partner? Do you both own the house?

I feel like this thread should be about the fact you're trying to split up with your husband and get him out of the house - rather than the furniture ? 🤔

Spot on @AgixThere are a lot of problems here and not one of them is the chair.

I told him to get rid of it or I get rid of him and the chair.

Why does he only own 3 items despite being your partner long enough to have children with you- presumably cohabiting with you for years.

Do you often threaten him with split/divorce in order to get him to get rid of almost everything he owns?

Would he have had any say in any part of the living room renovations if he had offered to help?

You appear to think “the” living room is your living room. As others have asked, is it your house he has just moved in to, or a house you’ve shared for years?

I can’t imagine sharing a house with someone and deciding to redecorate without talking to each other about what you want. I also can’t imagine my husband buying a piece of furniture without discussing it.

The standoff is a ridiculous power play, he is aggravated you are moving it every day (what a waste of energy), and is moving it back. You set a boundary and told him to get rid of it or you would get rid of him. Now you are faffing about with moving a bulky item of furniture instead of sticking to that boundary. Your next move is to put the chair and all his stuff on the front lawn for him coming home, and you actually sticking to your guns, if that is what you want.

Or, you could sit down together and communicate what the real issue is. I’m going to assume it will start with “you treat me like a guest in my own home” and “this is my house, you don’t get to buy furniture for it”

Incidentally, his age has nothing to do with it. A 50 year old man can have a gaming chair if he wishes, there is nothing wrong with that. Weird to buy one and never use it, but that would be true of any person of any age.

Or, you could sit down together and communicate what the real issue is. I’m going to assume it will start with “you treat me like a guest in my own home” and “this is my house, you don’t get to buy furniture for it”

I have my suspicions this is the real issue too.

A lot depends on your relationship status. If you’ve told him the relationship is dead, rather than worrying about a chair (I’d just leave it there as he’s using it to piss you off), and focus your energies on finding a solicitor and starting the divorce proceedings. The sooner you do that, the sooner you’ll live in a home without him, and you can decorate it however you like.

if this is a tongue in cheek post, just decorate the chair with nice fluffy cushions and put a throw over it. Pick your battles and let him have his ugly chair

It sounds like you have much bigger problems than an unwanted chair OP. This is a distraction from sorting out the problems in your relationship or ending it for good. It's not about the chair. Think about what you really want.