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Woman was letting her dog attack a cat because she needs to let her dog “defend itself”

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Zaina89 · 21/05/2025 19:07

So this morning I was dropping my kids off at school and walking back to the car. There is a little cat who is there daily who loves getting all the attention from walking to school. I do know who owns this cat and wasn’t sure if I should bring this up to her. So I was at the corner of the street about to cross over to my car and the cat stayed at the car, I noticed he was scared and went to hide behind a bush and could hear noises, when I looked around I already saw this lady’s jack Russell dog was extremely aggressive and making weird noises ( sorry don’t own dogs but it just seemed like a very aggressive dog even before this) she had the dog on a lead at this point. Next minute I was getting in to my car and heard noise and turned around and the dog was no longer on its lead ( the owner had let it go) and it was attacking this cat and throwing it around. I obviously got quite disturbed and told the woman to grab hold of the lead of her dog and to stop letting it attack the cat and watching it and letting this happen ( I also had my 1 year old with me who was close to this happening so was also worried in case the dog got more aggressive) the woman got aggressive and came up to my face and started threatening me and spat on me and started telling me “ the cat attacked my dog first, I NEED to let my dog defend itself” meanwhile she has still not grabbed the lead of her dog and is letting the dog attack the cat and not trying to stop this from happening. Whilst she was threatening me I told her I would call the police and also told her that she can see my small child with me and lots of young children walk this road daily to school and that her dog is clearly aggressive, she said she “ didn’t give a sh*t” and that her “ dog would never hurt someone” meanwhile whilst all of this she was not attempting to get her dog under control and was letting the dog drag the cat around and kept saying “ the cat attacked my dog first I need to let my dog defend itself”. She finally grabbed her dog and the cat ran away and I couldn’t find the dog. Another woman who was walking past was asking me if I was ok and I told her what happened and the woman started walking back to me and pushed me back and told me to “ stop telling rumors about her and her dog and that the cat attacked the dog first” blah blah. Am I in the wrong? I told this woman that even if the cat attacked the dog first ( which I don’t believe it did because it was already hiding behind a tree before the dog actually approached because it was ALREADY acting aggressive before seeing the cat) that it wasn’t right of her to say she needs to let her dog defend itself and watch this dog attack this cat and drag it around whilst it was hurting it because obviously dogs are much more capable of doing damage than cats are.

I just find her behaviour unacceptable that she was not attempting to get her dog under control and grab its lead and was instead defending what she was doing by saying “ my dog needs to defend itself” and letting her dog dragging the poor cat around and the cat couldn’t get free from it.

I am going to look for the owner at school tomorrow and will ask how the cat is and if it was badly injured or if she even knows what has happened, I just think no wonder the dog was so aggressive when the woman herself was aggressive and pushing me around and coming close to my face and threatening me. I wasn’t shouting at her and I’m not a confronting person usually I was just worried about the dog and now I’m feeling like I was in the wrong but it just seemed so wrong to me she wasn’t attempting to take control of the situation and wanting her dog to seriously injure this cat because it “ apparently did it first”

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 21/05/2025 19:10

Unacceptable horrible woman.

SwanOfThoseThings · 21/05/2025 19:11

She should be prosecuted for animal cruelty.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 21/05/2025 19:12

Yeah that’s animal cruelty she just gets off on watching her dog attack cats.

What a cunt there’s some lowlifes out there.

MaximusPaddimous · 21/05/2025 19:12

What have I just read? Why haven’t you reported this woman to the police? What an awful thing to do, and outside a school too. Jeez.

allmycats · 21/05/2025 19:13

Disgusting behaviour by the dog owner.

MrsFrumble · 21/05/2025 19:16

Can you contact the cat’s owner before tomorrow? It may be seriously hurt and need medical attention.

NamechangeJunebaby · 21/05/2025 19:17

You’re not unreasonable and that dog owner acted disgracefully. And I’m a dog owner.

JRTs are ratters and capable of inflicting deadly force. That poor cat! As for letting a dog off lead - just no, not anywhere near a road. That owner didn’t care properly for her dog, and she should have removed the dog from the vicinity of the cat straight away.

Can you report it on 111 online? I know the police won’t have time to do anything but it’s just so there’s a record. The cat might be injured.

Crudd99 · 21/05/2025 19:17

Dogs are meant to be on a lead and under control when out especially near cars and roads. The dogs owner was breaking the law. If you know the cats owner tell her what happened and get her to report it. Its animal cruelty and her spitting at you is disgusting. You need to report it to the police. I dread to think how the dog is treated at home too.

Tiredmumno1 · 21/05/2025 19:19

I think you need to report her firstly for the aggressive dog and secondly for laying her hands on you. Awful behaviour. I do hope the poor cat is ok.

TheGiddySeal · 21/05/2025 19:20

Can you report to the police? Did you know the woman with the dog? Will they have CCTV in the area?

NamechangeJunebaby · 21/05/2025 19:20

I missed the spitting…. Yes please report asap. Disgusting behaviour, and I bet someone else must have seen it, even from afar. Was she dropping off a kid at school? Might you see her again?

That poor cat might be hurt and hiding away.

Edit to say it might have been caught on a ring doorbell?

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 21/05/2025 19:21

I would report her to the police.. Attacking a dcat was fucking hideous but imagine if the ddog had head tailed it towards a dc in it's frenzied state? Report her for not having control of her ddog.. It is an offence.

theclampits · 21/05/2025 19:23

That made me really uncomfortable to read, that poor cat. She sounds fucking mental. I would call the police about it surely it’s animal cruelty?

Oldraver · 21/05/2025 19:24

So you saw this happening at school drop off, it is now 7pm and you have done NOTHING ?

If you know who's cat this is why the fuck have you not contacted them about their cat being attacked, please tell me you haven;t just walked away

Cherryann · 21/05/2025 19:26

Ask around at school to get an identity for her if you can.
Report her to the police (not just the attack on the cat, but the spitting at you & the threatening behaviour towards you- this itself is an assault).
Underline to police the proximity to the school.
Tell the cat’s owner.
Also, tell other parents & the head teacher so that they are aware to give her & her dog a wide berth.
Then you will have done all you can.

DinoLil · 21/05/2025 19:28

My previous dog was attacked by a cat. He was on lead. We were just walking along the pavement home.

A woman on the other side of the road started screaming at me to get my dog off the cat. My dog was cowering on the floor whilst the cat battered him.

I had to pick a lot of claws out of his face.

RaininSummer · 21/05/2025 19:31

The woman sounds like a dangerous psycho. Report her to the police. Poor car is probably badly injured .

lunar1 · 21/05/2025 19:32

Almost 12 hours later and you haven’t told the owner of the cat, the poor animal might not have even made it home.

2dogsandabudgie · 21/05/2025 19:33

DinoLil · 21/05/2025 19:28

My previous dog was attacked by a cat. He was on lead. We were just walking along the pavement home.

A woman on the other side of the road started screaming at me to get my dog off the cat. My dog was cowering on the floor whilst the cat battered him.

I had to pick a lot of claws out of his face.

My cat was attacked by a dog, the dog definitely came off worse.

Seventree · 21/05/2025 19:35

Report her to the police for spitting on you and pushing you, as well as for having an out of control dog. I'm not sure if there are any laws about dogs attacking cats, but there should be.

2dogsandabudgie · 21/05/2025 19:35

You should have definitely reported this to the police OP. Spitting at you and pushing you is assault. Also she needs to be in control of her dog.

MeatRaffleRita · 21/05/2025 19:36

Crudd99 · 21/05/2025 19:17

Dogs are meant to be on a lead and under control when out especially near cars and roads. The dogs owner was breaking the law. If you know the cats owner tell her what happened and get her to report it. Its animal cruelty and her spitting at you is disgusting. You need to report it to the police. I dread to think how the dog is treated at home too.

She sounds dangerous. She's clearly happy to let her dog kill cats.

Report to police OP.

AutumnScream · 21/05/2025 19:36

Wtf why haven't you reported it to the police and been round the cat owners house?

Fwiw spitting on you is also assault that needs reporting as is threatening behaviour and animal cruelty and bating animals. How you didn't knock her out in that instance i dont know.

ItWillWash · 21/05/2025 19:37

DinoLil · 21/05/2025 19:28

My previous dog was attacked by a cat. He was on lead. We were just walking along the pavement home.

A woman on the other side of the road started screaming at me to get my dog off the cat. My dog was cowering on the floor whilst the cat battered him.

I had to pick a lot of claws out of his face.

No you didn't. Cats don't shed their claws. Mine have fought the dogs a few times, I've never once picked claws out of the dogs. Dogs are much hardier than cats, generally speaking.

@Zaina89 you need to report this woman to the police before it happens again. A JRT can quite easily kill a cat. Killing small animals is literally what they were bred for.

OneAquaPombear · 21/05/2025 19:37

I think you should tell the cat owner now, if you can. The cat may need urgent medical attention. You don’t know it hasn’t got internal injuries or if it’s going to die if shock, please let the owner know do they can get it to a vet, now. Also, as the crime has already happened, please report it to on the non emergency police number 101 or make an online report with them. This dog was deliberately dangerously out of control.