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Feeling crap… Am I just shit at my job?

16 replies

LimeOrLemon · 21/05/2025 16:58

Hi,
I just wanted to ask if anyone’s been in a similar situation and has any advice.

I work in a healthcare role - not a GP, but similar - where we see a mix of routine and emergency patients and refer to hospital etc. I’m recently qualified and genuinely love the job. I care deeply about doing right by every patient, and I’m fascinated by the field (spend my time researching it, I’m a total nerd! haha). It’s been a tough few years, so qualifying was the best day of my life. I always try to think of my own experience in appointments where I’ve felt I was listened to and other times I wasn’t and I try to make sure I do right by every patient.

The issue isn’t the job itself, but how I’m feeling in comparison to my colleagues. I’m one of the newer and younger members of the team, so I’m not as fast or efficient yet. I’m paid less to reflect this, and I know that experience takes time, but it’s still so disheartening. Our work involves both medical care and some sales elements, and I’m trying my absolute best but still not good enough at anything

Other colleagues are more experienced by several years and they seem to fly through appointments, while I usually take the full allocated time. I’m not slow per se, but I do take longer when cases are very complex. Meanwhile, the others somehow manage to keep pace regardless. I often finish the day having seen slightly fewer patients than everyone else, and they make comments about it eg ‘oh yet again you’ve seen less people than us? just had a day chilling out, eh?’ It’s said in a jokingly way but they’re absolutely serious too. They’ll even refuse to see the last patient and go home earlier, saying they’ve “worked harder” than me, so I get left to do it.

Management have never raised concerns -in fact, when I asked for feedback, my manager said I’m doing great and just need more experience. Still, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not good enough compared to the others. I just feel crap and deflated, and I’ve been coming home in tears at times. My actual clinical knowledge and skillset is good and I go home everyday knowing my work is high quality but I’m just not as quick as everyone else and I don’t make as many sales

Managers do understand some appointments will take longer especially if complex but realistically they want us to be as quick as we can so they can fit in more people, there’s ALWAYS people wanting on-the-days and more people = more money

I absolutely will NOT compromise my clinical practice or act in a way I don’t deem to be the best way for the patient, and my managers are generally great and they’ve never asked or expected me to. When I joined the list to do this job I agreed to do it properly and I absolutely will NOT consider cutting corners or rushing

There’s always rumours about people cutting corners and rapidly going through appointments too quickly (we’re warned in uni about people getting struck off for it) and I absolutely am NOT accusing anyone at my work of that. I have no reason to believe thats happening. And realistically some appointments don’t require the full allocated time. But sometimes I wonder how on earth they can speed through all their appointments so quickly, they’re not cutting corners they’re just better than me.

But I don’t know how to get better other than practice and get more experience, and I’m trying so so hard but they’re constantly making digs at me. I love the job but feel increasingly shit at it and like I’m a burden to everyone else and that they’d be better off if I just quit. But I love the job and don’t want to do that.

i was thinking of putting together all the anonymised nice feedback from patients ive had and putting it in a book and then that way I can sort of read it whenever I feel a bit down but then I mentioned it to someone at work (I didn’t tell them about feeling down, I just said it would be a cool thing to have all the feedback together) and they were like why do you care so much? Do you only do this job to read good reviews about yourself? Then it got me thinking if my motives were just selfish?

But yeah thank you if you’ve made it this far, just wondered has anyone else been in this position and have any advice? Its like my mind is completely confused about if my colleagues are being ridiculous or if I’m just being lazy and shit at my job because ultimately they’re right that I’m taking longer than them and they are seeing more people than me, and if I am just shit I have no idea how to get better because I’m trying my best already. I regularly work over my lunch and stay late and I’m trying my best to not be a burden

but yeah if anyone has any advice or experience or wisdom I’d be really grateful to hear it. Thanks x

OP posts:
LimeOrLemon · 21/05/2025 19:12

Sorry, giving this a quick bump 🤞

OP posts:
S0j0urn4r · 21/05/2025 19:23

Ignore the snotty colleagues. Your manager is happy with your progress. Improving your practice will come with time and experience. Have some patience.

DejaMooo · 21/05/2025 19:24

Your colleagues don’t sound very nice or supportive. You’ll always get people though who forget what it’s like to be newly qualified and still learning. I’ve seen it time and again in my job too, and always try and help the newbies and reassure them. I don’t really have any good advice either than just keep doing what you’re doing. Management don’t have any concerns, and it’s great that you love the job and are passionate about it. You’ll get faster with experience.

Swampdonkey123 · 21/05/2025 19:24

I don't know why you are feeling crap. It sounds like you are doing fine. It is not all about speed. Give yourself a break.

BakelikeBertha · 21/05/2025 19:25

You've said that management are happy with your work, and have told you that you just need more experience. They are the one's who's opinions matter OP, not your colleagues, who you've said have more experience than you. Maybe next time someone says something, you could say, "You do realise that I've only just qualified? I bet you were like me when you first started, but after all the years you've had doing the job, doubtless you could do it in your sleep, but I can't'.

Alternatively, maybe have a word with your boss, and tell them that you're getting teased by your colleagues, you are doing your best, but it's beginning to upset you. Then if once again they confirm they are happy, ask if perhaps they could have a discreet word.

Please don't let these comments make you quit or feel bad OP, we all have to learn jobs, and it does take time. Is there a part of the job that you don't enjoy, or that you find difficult, as if so, ask for more training on it, but other than that, just keep plugging away, speed always comes with experience.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 21/05/2025 19:26

Sounds to me like you are trying to be as thorough as you can. You care about your work and are doing it to your best ability. Never mind what others are saying, sounds like you are doing really well.

steff13 · 21/05/2025 19:31

I'm sure you will be faster with time.

I'm confused, though, what are you selling?

DoNoTakeNo · 21/05/2025 19:32

I think YAB Unreasonably hard on yourself.
If you really want a fairer comparison, find out the relative KPIs of your colleagues when they were at your own stage in their careers. Bet you a free appointment that they’re pretty similar to (or worse than) you!
Please don’t let their silly comments bring you down; you’ve clearly achieved a lot to get where you are & you honestly should be proud of that - studying & qualifying for a professional qualification is no small thing!
Also I think you’re idea of a little Booster Book is excellent; make it just for you, add all the great feedback that you get & and that’s coming in the future.
As an old boss of mine used to say - Don’t let the bastards grind you down!

marthasmum · 21/05/2025 19:35

Hi OP, I agree with others, you sound like you are doing just fine and colleagues comments sound snarky. You are being paid less after all. If you can find a way to push back that you feel comfortable with I would recommend this. I teach healthcare students and use the analogy that it’s like buildings a wall. However beautifully constructed your wall is, it just won’t be as tall as your colleagues because they’ve been doing it longer and they’ve just got more bricks!

Hankunamatata · 21/05/2025 19:41

Optician I'm guessing. Use your allocated time, take your time.

Nasty digs prep some come backs. Or dead pan face and say 'do you mean to be so rude'

If there's one patient left tell the other practitioner to stay and you will observe to help streamline your technique. That should stop the comments.

PinkGardenParty · 21/05/2025 19:42

I'd rather see someone who takes their time.

Motheroffive999 · 21/05/2025 19:58

This sounds like how I feel , like I always not good enough and I take longer , but I care and I do my best.
My manager tells people that we are all good at different things and have different qualities and we are a team.
They sound just like the people I have to listen to every day.
You keep doing your best , stuff them

Bubblebubblepoppop · 21/05/2025 20:00

Dentist?

EricInk · 21/05/2025 20:06

I’m guessing you’re a dentist.

If you are and recently qualified you will be much slower. It sounds like you are passionate about the job and enjoy it which patients always pick up on and appreciate. I’ve been working for many years and I can basically do it in my sleep so routine things don’t take very long but you won’t get to that point until you’ve been practising for a long time. I still love it and find it really interesting. I would just ignore your colleagues. Are they male by any chance!? Wink. We have younger dentists with us and fully support them. If patients are already giving you good feedback and managers happy, you’re good at your job.

Tessiebear2023 · 21/05/2025 20:54

How are clients/patients allotted, is there any possibility you're being given the more complicated or tricky case load?

Can you ask to job-shadow one of the very experienced practitioners and see what their secret is?

Bobbybobbins · 21/05/2025 20:57

It will take time for you to gain experience. I would come up with some responses if they challenge you. Sounds like you are doing really well!

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