yesterday her friend called round for her. dd1 knows where she is allowed to play out the front, which includes out area of the street and two cul-de-sacs at either end.
after 45mins or so i was popping out so went to let dd1 know that i was going but dh was in, in case she came back and saw the car had gone and panicked.
but i couldnt find her. i checked both areas, and came back and asked dh is she had come in and i has missed her. she hadnt. just as i was about to go back and look again i heard her and her friend outside. i asked her where she had been and she said 'round the corner' i said i had checked round there and she wasnt there, she then said she had been round near b+q, which although isnt that far away its out of the boundries agreed and near and industrail area and very busy main road which leads to town. i sent dd1 friend home, and dd1 got sent to her room. she did apologuise when i came back from the shops, and played at hoem for the rest of the afternoon, and then had brownies.
she has asked is she can go out with her friend tonight, i have said no, because i wasnt happy with her behaviour still, and it had been her final warning after leaving dd2 unattended last week when she asked if dd2 could go with her, but then she left her once her friends were there, and also after leaving school grounds once dh had dropped her off to school and seen dd2 into class one day last week. i was told that dd1 had been running around outside the school gates with her friends. she has been told she can play in the playground until the bell goes but not to leave school gronds.
dd1 was sulking when she left for school and thinks i am being unreasonable.
am i giving her too much freedom too soon? what age do you let go? she is 8.