AIBU to leave job because of cliques in office

[Pipperhol]

I started a new job back in September, it's in a large open plan office with approx 20 people. Since starting I don't feel like I really gel with anyone and the office feels like its separated into smaller groups, there's one with the men mostly and another with mostly younger women (22-30) and then a few older ones who stick together. The younger women in particular make a point of being a group, sitting together and talking about their nights out, they'll go out for lunch together and chat throughout the day. I'm starting to feel more awkward and alone in the office. In previous jobs it's never been an issue and everyone just gets along however this team is very separate. Besides the groups it's a nice job and the work isnt too demanding and it's close to home. AIBU to consider looking for a new job so I have a nicer work atmosphere? No one is rude but just generally ignores I'm there and when I contribute to the conversation no one will respond much. Just feel to be somewhere for nearly 40 hours a week I shouldn't feel awkward and alone most days?

It wouldn’t bother me if I liked the job and it suited me, as long as no one was actively being unpleasant.

YABU.

I long ago decided it was better to be a loner at work than to get drawn into cliques. Be pleasant and friendly and chat to people if the opportunity arises; take a book with you for breaks. Unless they were being unpleasant to me, I wouldn't think of leaving.

Not unreasonable at all. If you consider our waking hours, we spend as much time at work as we do at home so it's important to feel comfortable. You're in a great position where there is no real pressure to leave so you can take your time and find something you love, (or at least love as much as anyone can love working!).

No reason not to look around but I’m happy not having friends at work so probably wouldn’t myself if I was otherwise happy with the job. But having a job you don’t hate or need to leave is a great time to job hunt!

There are cliques everywhere in all jobs, just give it time and you will probably strike up a nice conversation and be invited to one.

Personally, now I'm a bit older, I just plonk myself down to anyone and chat lol 😆

I wouldn't be bothered anyway, I feel lucky to have the wonderful friends I do and no desperate need to be part of a new clique.

Just let I happen naturally, it can take time, and also a bonus you don't have to go for extra nights out with superficial people. Xxx

@Pipperhol YABU at all but I’d definitely give it a bit more time. I also am that oddball person and I’ve learnt just to look on the positive that at least I don’t have to worry about any weird office friend dynamics personally myself and can just get on unbothered with my day. I find that eventually people just warm to you and it’s all fine. I can see though how it is initially a bit disconcerting. The only time cliques have been an issue for me is where the work is complex so you need ‘friends’ or collaborative and in that case I would be suggesting you lol for another job. But luckily that’s not the case here. Good luck!